Last Spanking PSA we touched on spanko terminology, and this time we’ll look at finding someone with whom to correspond, chat, or play.
As we discussed recently when one of my playmates gifted me some classic spanko periodicals, getting in touch with others of a like mind is different now than ever before. Most of us meet new folks online now, rather than at an afternoon social, and pen pals have been mostly replaced by IM or Skype pals. With all this interaction available at our fingertips, it can become overwhelming for us when we’re just beginning our Spanko Learning Search; it’s easy to end up in the wrong ‘place’.
I’m going to list some online resources which may be helpful in finding others with your particular interests. *Remember that I don’t suggest any particular activity on these sites, if any, and have no vested interest in any site or link – take a look around, and always trust your instincts.
- The largest and most obvious of the social networks, for our purposes, is FetLife.com. There are a gazillion kinky people on the site, all with profiles similar to what you may remember from MySpace. Registered users can make ‘friends’, send private messages, join groups, and see what’s/who’s happening in their area. And it’s free. *Just like all social networks, remember that your identity is yours to protect – best to proceed with discretion, always.
- Shadow Lane (shadowlane.com) has been leading the social spanko community for decades, and they always have a weekly moderated chat available to registered users. It’s a low-pressure way to interact with other spankos, and you don’t have to worry about the conversation going south because there’s always someone (a moderator) online, making sure that everyone plays nice.
- SpankingNeeds.com offers a moderately-trafficked discussion board with many topics, links, and members available for chat.
- Spanko Groups (look for the link list on the right-hand side of this page, toward the bottom) are an excellent way for more extroverted newbies to meet other spanking fetishists. Most require registration, and many charge a small entrance fee to cover costs of putting on the meetings, and most will also insure your privacy and discretion.
- Pro spankers and spankees (another link list of pro spankers can be found in the right-hand sidebar, as well) are almost always happy to help new players learn the ins and outs of spanking play. As with any new playmate, make sure to get to know one another before you play, and that you have similar interests and goals for your playtime.
- Spanko.net and SpankingTube.com feature free spanking videos, member profiles, and social networking/email/private messaging capabilities.
Get out there. Take a look around. Be smart.
And have fun!
– Dana
Fetlife is a VERY eye opening site for spanking and just about any other fetish one can think of. Because I identify as JUST a spanko I’ve learned to discern and that I don’t require a “friends” list the size of my monthly income. LOL
There ARE genuine people in the spanking scene who mutually care about each other and may share interests beyond spanking. But I agree it’s wise to watch whom you choose as friends and what one posts about their lifestyle just in case someone on there or on any social networking site isn’t so worried about respecting privacy.
Spanking forums used to be pretty good during the shift from print to on-line initial contact, but in the past, oh, maybe five years or so, they’ve become overrun with people who post nothing more than “I want spank” or “Is there anyone here who will spank me?”
Spanking Needs is a good example. They keep adding more “boards” to support more focused discussions and those rapidly get polluted with the “I want spank” posts. There’s a Personal section for that, but nobody goes there. It’s too crowded.
It’s important, for keeping these resources alive and useful, to be a little more specific in your desires. Often from these “wanna” posts, we don’t know the gender of the one asking, the age range (OF COURSE everyone posting is over 18), their location, whether they expect someone to just come over for free and whop their butt or if they’re looking for a recommendation for an experienced professional . . .
Of course NOBODY from here would ever post useless messages like that on a spanking-related forum. Just saying . . .