Getting Settled in MsDanaKane.com

 

Readers,

 

Well, here we are – off and running on a new blog platform, with not too much damage done along the way. Granted, I’ve not re-uploaded every single photo, especially on posts well over a year old, and you may find a broken link or two, especially at first.  

( * Please be kind enough to forward along any issues, questions, suggestions, or comments for this new blog to me, so that I can make this place as handy-dandy as possible. : danakanespanks@gmail.com)

The free videos are also hosted on a new page, and the link to watch them all is on the top navigation bar.

You’ll also find new Forums on the righthand sidebar – click to enter the discussion area, register, and join in the conversation! 

There’s still a lot to be done, but I’m happy that the changeover – although tedious and time-consuming – was successful. Re-subscribe (if you haven’t already) to the right, and come back soon to see the changes.

 

–  Dana

 

New Blog Address


Readers,

I’ve purchased the domain and am awaiting activation of the new location for this blog.

As you know, blogger’s blasting adult content blogs, so I’m in the process of moving over to a new URL. Soon as I get it all plugged in, the new location for my blog will be:

MsDanaKane.com

Cross your fingers for me, as I’m not certain that all of the current blog content will transfer over smoothly, and I’m hoping that it doesn’t all get lost or totally scrambled in the move.

One way or another, the blog will continue at the above address just as soon as it’s all in place.

Thanks for all the encouraging comments and emails on this Blogger mess – you all rock.

–  Dana

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Spanking on Television


Readers,

This may be old news to many, as I am WAY behind on the popular television front, but I’ve found a new favorite television show recently and a few nights ago watched – tickled! – as Sheldon spanked Amy on Big Bang Theory. (Season 6 Epidode 10)

I’m always excited to see spanking in ‘the mainstream’, and no matter how many times I watch episodes of The Office I still get butterflies every time someone says ‘discipline’, or when Michael Scott spanks his nephew for poor professionalism in the workplace.

I accidentally saw an episode of Big Bang Theory in a hotel room someplace, and enjoyed the intelligence, nerdiness, and lack-of-general-meanness in the storyline. So, coming home, I endeavored to find and watch the series – which I have. The Sheldon character is a physicist, genius, and short on social skills; Amy is his scientist girlfriend, played by Mayim Bialik (Blossom).

In this episode, Amy has pretended to be sick in order to get some attention from Sheldon. When he finds out, he uses his totally logical brain to come up with the best possible solution for Amy’s bad behavior :

Spanking.

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Saying Goodbye to Twitter

While I’ve enjoyed Twitter quite a lot, it’s time to shut down my @danakanespanks account.

Many of my followers are friends and playmates, and we do have a whole bunch of fun, but..

It’s become glaringly obvious that folks think it’s socially acceptable to harass, force acceptable boundaries, and behave in a generally not-cool manner on social media platforms. This has caused me to close my Facebook and FetLife profiles this year, also, and removing Twitter will be my final strike against the aggravation inherent to social media and the people who abuse access to another’s attentions.

It’s a damn shame, really. I’ll keep the account up for another few days/weeks, but I believe that there’s very little redeeming value, for me, in remaining any longer.

You’ll still find my blog (once I’ve made the platform change) and video website, and are welcome to email anytime at danakanespanks@gmail.com.

Dana

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Blogger is taking us DOWN

Readers,

I’ve just received a notice that all Adult Content blogs will be removed from this platform, beginning THIS SUNDAY.

I’m going to transfer the blog to another domain/server asap, and will let you all know where it may be found, once I’ve made the move.

(Blogger: You suck)

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Spanko Distractions : Crossword Puzzle #2

** READERS, I AM AWARE THAT THIS DISTRACTION IS WONKY. IT LOST IT’S SHAPE IN THE BLOG MOVE (BLAME GOOGLE/BLOGGER) AND I’LL TRY TO GET IT EDITED AND REPOSTED ASAP.  –  DANA  ***
Spanko Distractions : Crossword Puzzle #2
 
Here’s another fun, spanko-themed crossword puzzle – as if any of us needed something else to keep us from doing what we’re “supposed” to be doing right now. Alas…we are what we are. Enjoy~
 
–  Dana
Noteworthy Spanko Ladies
(There are many, MANY more.)

 1 2 3   4            5  6              7  8       9          10 11        12                             13                   14              15
ACROSS
6 Stand Corrected Editor
9 CHoS makes us all laugh.
12 Therapist-Author-Spanker
13 This Brit is part heaven, part hell.
14 They ALL enjoy CP.
15 Hot Redhead Video Switch
DOWN
1 She Assumes the Position.
2 Hardest Hand Spanking
3 Recently voted one of the best spanko blogs.
4 A ‘sweet-smelling’ author
5 Delco Spanko Founder
7 Has a Wicked Stepmother
8 She’s more than a 9.
10 She keeps Minneapolis in line.
11 90’s Video Blonde Bombshell
And here’s one game gal’s finished Distraction #2 puzzle: 
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(This was a great idea, as she collected a screengrab of the puzzle then imported it into her paint/draw program. Voila! Interactive online puzzle!)
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‘Falling to Grace’ : An out-of-this-world F/M spanking story


Readers,

It seems that, through the imagination, spankings can happen anywhere – in another excellent reader submitted story, ‘Falling to Grace’ shows us what could happen when even ‘crossing over’ can’t save you from a hard hairbrushing. Enjoy!

–   Dana


Falling to Grace


By Anthony

He was standing before her as naked as Adam, squinting into her face. She was seated, and with the white silk gown draped over her feet, he couldn’t see if she wore shoes. If so, he knew they were the most brilliant of silver pumps.

She had dispensed with the wings, and that accentuated her pale, long arms. Oddly, those arms were mismatched, with the left arm much larger in diameter. This asymmetry struck him as strange, especially here. She also looked familiar.

She patted the left side of her lap several times and without thought he lowered himself slowly over her legs, settling his nakedness onto the silky fabric covering his thighs. 

“If you’re wondering,” she said, “there is no He around here. We take care of everything.” Her voice was close to his ear, low and engaging.

From his position over her lap, he and the floor were bathed in the illumination from her halo. A mother of pearl hairbrush, lay within his arm’s reach. He yearned to retrieve it, to feel its heft in his in his hand, to slap his other palm with it, to surrender it to her with delicious hesitation. But he was scared.

“Of course we all spank here,” she said, caressing his naked bottom. “Just some harder than others.”

“How much will it hurt?” he asked. His body was responding to the feel of her thighs, the smooth hands on his flesh.

“I should think a great deal,” she said. “You won’t be sorry.”

She started slapping his bottom gently, glancing blows that warmed and teased him. Her palm struck where his legs met the curve of his bottom and she slowly worked her way up that arc, eventually connecting with more force on the fullness of his cheeks.

His hands had lowered to the floor, helping him balance. Now she took one of his hands and brought it behind his back, spanking harder for awhile. Then she paused. It took him a second to realize the sensation had stopped. She slipped something flat and cool into his hand.

He brought the object around so that he could look at it. An Android tablet?

“You don’t use…I mean I thought here of all places…” he started to ask.

He heard her laugh deeply. 

“He was an absolute genius but so straight-laced it hurts me to think.”

The tablet was displaying a YouTube page and when he saw the particular video, his stomach somersaulted.

“It ends about 1:42 or so,” she said. “Well, it and you.” She laughed.

But he was sidetracked now, staring at the screen, how he’d looked on the edge of the cliff, before he’d jumped. 

She had to slap his already sore bottom several times hard before he pushed the play button. 

He had really looked good, hadn’t he!

“There you are in your cute wingsuit,” she said. “Falling out of the blue sky, a lone beautiful bird. So magnificent I daresay it reminds me of my earlier days.” 

“Picking up speed as you swoop down, down, down. Hurtling toward the hole in the rock face. There’s nothing else like flying! They know…you know…it’s certain death if you miss the hole. But you have the parachute on your back and safety is the most likely outcome.”

She started spanking him again as he watched. “There’s no way you could miss the hole is there? No reason for that…”

He was transfixed as the video merged with his memory. Outside his body, watching, he was feeling the elation of the flight in every nerve, the precision in his trajectory born out of the most minute changes in the wingsuit.

The video played on and he almost forgot his burning bottom and the fire of her hand. As he flew closer and closer to the hole, it gained in size and the video transitioned to slow motion.

“There,” she said. “Stop it there.”

He had approached the hole dead center with plenty of room on all sides, until this very moment, where a variation had pitched him slightly off course.

“Miscalculation” he said. “At that speed there’s no room for error.”

“No,” she said. “No miscalculation. Do you want me to stop spanking you?”

He felt her hand pause and he sighed, then muttered something.

“I didn’t catch that.”

“No, please!” he said. “Butt wiggle. It was butt wiggle. Keep spanking!”

“Ah,” she slapped his bottom once in punctuation, then again and again. “Butt wiggle. I thought maybe. Replay that.”

He rewound the video and played it over.

“It’s so clear isn’t it,” she said. “You were perfect, absolutely perfect, *until* you wiggled your bottom the tiniest of a millimeter. Practically invisible in the wingsuit. The aerodynamics changed just a teentsy. But at 69.3 meters a second, it doesn’t take much does it? And you knew that.”

He remained quiet.

“Well,” she said, “we really don’t need to see much more. Suffice it to say that what happened got you twice as many views as a success would have.”

“Plus,” she added, “you’re here.”

She grasped his hair lightly and her lips felt almost in his ear. “Be careful in the future – if you go to the Other Place, it’s an eternal timeout. In fact, there’s a bored guy in the corner there because he jumped semis on a motorcycle too successfully.” 

He moaned. It was time. They both knew it. 

Still over her lap, he swung his arm back and returned the tablet, the screen dark now. Then he reached down slowly and picked up the hairbrush. He held it for a moment, drawing it slowly down the side of his face, feeling the coolness as he slid the back of it past his temple, over his jaw, past his chin. So flat. So hard. So smooth. He gently passed it to her.

“You may not remember,” she said, “but this isn’t the first time you’ve been here. Oh no, not by a stretch.”

She laughed. “To this day, they still talk about a certain young man as a myth. They say that in this myth he flew too close to the sun and the wax wings he wore melted and plunged him into the sea.”

“We know better don’t we? I wonder what maneuver brought you closer to the sun. Close enough to melt the wings.”

He smiled and laughed, and together they said “butt wiggle”.

“The thing that you *do* forget every time,” she said, “besides your sordid, naughty history, is that the spanking is cumulative.”

“So I’ll be spanking you not only for your latest collision with the rock face, but for the melted wings, and everything in between. With this heavenly hairbrush!”

She brought the brush down on his bottom and he gasped.

“It’s mostly fun right now,” she said in a happy, menacing voice, spanking him again, “but your bottom will remember this for a long time even if you don’t”.

“And the thought of it may cause a twinge down there, a wiggle if you will.” She laughed.

“Then you’ll be back seeing old Grace again. I guarantee it!”

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Summer Travel


The summer is finally upon us, and I’ll be heading to a few of my favorite cities in the next couple months. Since it’s finally ‘not cold’ just about everywhere, my friends and playmates should be happy to find me much less cranky about the weather – which means that your spankings will hurt just as much, but I’ll be laughing harder while you get them.

–  Dana


June 2013:

      25  St. Louis, MO

26-27   Albany, NY

July 2013:

   9   Denver, CO

  10  Kansas City, MO

30-31  New York City

August 2013:

    1-3   Toronto, ON

      19  Atlanta, GA

 20-21  Charlotte, NC

 
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Mooski’s Live Tweet Spanking Game

Readers,

My friend ‘Mooski’ visited from England recently and we had several hours of spanking fun and caching up to do in the year-plus since I’d seen him last. Mooski’s a longtime spanko and very conditioned and tolerant bottom, and he’s tested the patience of many London area tops including Lucinda Simon, Cruel Christine, and Cecilia Prim.     
You see, Mooski is a Lovable Brat. (Lovable Brat for me is defined as someone who misbehaves to varying degrees but is also, eventually, occasionally, tameable – and always respectful, as it’s hard to love something which can never be handled without caution.) He gets up to a lot of silliness with his top friends, myself included, and we (mostly) enjoy his banter and intelligent/biting humor, but in the end he’s simply an awful lot of fun to have around.

However. He’s still a brat.

I thought that it would be fun, since he utilizes social media so much in his joyous top-bugging, to give him a dose of his own medicine – I made him live tweet his discipline on Twitter.

In order to fully appreciate the feed, you’ll have to scroll to the bottom of the post and read the postings in their original order – bottom to top.

I laid out ten implements (plus three extra for the bonus round), a Dana Kane poker chip to flip, and a pair of fuzzy dice. I told Mooski that we were about to begin and he was to tweet the basics of the game: He rolls the two dice for the number of strokes for the implement I’ve chosen. Then he flips the coin: heads = the number on the dice; tails = double the number. After each set of strokes, he must tweet ‘thank you miss, may I have another”. 
Following the initial ten sets, there was the bonus round. Mooski was given two minutes, with the help of his Twitter followers to choose the implement for one final roll/flip: a) My friend Robin’s handmade oak paddle which resembles a slightly smaller version of a boat oar; b) a rubber tire tread strap recently gifted me by a very lovely couple; c) a stiff, new barber strop. Running out of time, Mooski chose the huge wooden paddle…and loved it! 

He’s a tough boy, and sweet as he can be….and SO very game to allow us to share his discipline with, well, the world. (Thanks Mooski…you’re the best! oxxo)

(Remember, scroll to the bottom and read your way back to the top.)

— Dana

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Spanko Distractions : Word Search #1

 
 

Readers,
 

 
 

As none of you sent hate mail following the first Distraction, I’m going to interpret that as a sign of positivity.  Here’s a fun easy word search, featuring many Implements of Spanking. You’ll find the word list below the puzzle.
 

 
 

Enjoy!  
 

 
 

  –  Dana
 

 

 

 

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BELT                    BIRCH               CANE               CROP               DELRIN               FLOGGER
 

 
 

HAIRBRUSH      HAND                LEXAN            MARTINET     NETTLE              PADDLE
 

 
 

RULER                 SLIPPER            SPOON           STRAP              STROP                 TAWSE
 

 
 

WHIP                    WILLOW
 

 

 

 

 

**  Take a minute and let me know what you think of these little puzzles/games, as they’ll be a regular addition to the blog if you like them.
 

 

 

 

 

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Spanko Distractions: Crossword Puzzle #1


Readers,

As promised, here’s the first go at ‘Distractions’. I found a fun crossword-making program so the whole endeavor didn’t take more than an hour. If you have fun with this, I’ll make more.

(Note: I’d print it if I were you. Dry erase on your keyboard may be a problem.)

–  Dana

 

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Afterthought:  It may be fun to post photos of some finished puzzles, so if you decide to give it a whirl email me a picture of your work, at danakanespanks@gmail.com.

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Conversations with Spankos: Chapter 21 ‘Hide and Seek’


Readers,

One of the conversations which I have with many of my spanko friends and playmates seems an inevitable one : When did we ‘find’ spanking?

Not when did we discover our interest/fascination/obsession, but when did we find the larger spanko community? 

For many, their Hide and Seek brought them, in the early days, to NuWest, Lupus, and Shadow Lane. Stand Corrected seems to be the catalyst to many spankos of that generation, being their first tangible evidence that other spankos in fact existed. Most point to classfied ads in the backs of kinky magazines and big city newspapers as the key to their finding these early treasure troves of spanko connectivity, and many in the Northeast remember Times Square as a place where sex, kink, and fetish could once be found in abundance. (I know of at least one place left in Times Square, by the way, where spanking materials may still be purchased, via a friend who has firsthand knowledge, although I’ve not visited. Yet.)

The younger generation have had the advantage of the internet to connect them to others who share their interests, so I’m sure that the path wasn’t quite as long or rocky, but I’m still interested in your first exposures to the greater spanking world – whether it was a website, magazine, or (as I’ve heard several times as well) a naughty story in Playboy or Penthouse Forum magazines.

We all Hid, but we also all Sought, and we all Found. 

For me, it was simple and somewhat shocking. After moving to Los Angeles from my teeny Texas town, I was gobsmacked by the enormity of the general BDSM scene. Although it took a while to weed the spankos out of the wider community, it became immediately obvious to me that geography means everything when it comes to fetish. If you’re in a rural area, your chances for contact with other spankos is drastically diminished, even with the internet at our disposal, and the feeling of isolation is increased. From that side of the experience spectrum, I observed that folks in the Big City appeared to have many more opportunities, much earlier, for freedom of exploration. 

I’m still coming to terms with the apparent teeming masses of spanking fetishists on the planet, and I think we’ve still only scratched the surface of ‘out’ spankos – many more in than out.

I wonder when and where they’ll find us?

–  Dana

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More Contests, and New Distractions


Readers,

Since I’ve started this blog, I’ve given all kinds of things away. DVDs, lots of spankings, implements, and now site memberships. Some contests garner more participation than others, the story writing contests usually being the most popular.

The writing contests will continue, and I’ll try and find other amusing ways to give things away, but I’ve also decided to start posting up games, puzzles, and other fun things which I’ll call ‘Spanko Distractions’. The surveys will be in this category, too, and I have several ideas for ways to waste your time, simply for the hell of it. The first Distraction is coming in just a few days!


Thank you all for your continued input and participation in the blog and all the things we get up to here. I hope you’re still having as much fun as I am.

–  Dana

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DVD Store up and running – and new spanking DVD’s!



Readers,

After much programming ado, I am happy to announce that the DVD store feature on DanaKanespanks.com is finally up, running, and ready for orders. (This has been no small miracle, and I’m grateful to my webmaster, Alan, at adultwebexperts.com for all his help and dedication.)

In addition to the previously-available DVD titles, I’ve also added two new ones:

Angel’s Nightmare Weekend
(from the Little Angel and the Wicked Stepmother series)

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and…

 

Spanking Naughty Sister-in-Law Cheyenne
(A collection of all the roleplay scenes in which Cheyenne Jewel has played my oft-spanked s-i-l.)
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May’s Story Contest Winner, and an unfortunate reminder.



This month’s story writing contest, ‘Who Do You Think You Are’, garnered a very few entries – even fewer of which were eligible, based on unfavorable content or inability to stay on the requested topic.

In this month’s contest, and in all future contests, I will choose NOT to edit or post ineligible entries. If you’re going to take the time to write and submit a story, please do yourself the favor of making it:

1. On Topic
2. Free of Sexual Scenarios…jeez.
3. On Topic.
4. Free of Characters or references to characters under the age of 18. 

Otherwise, all your time and effort will be wasted. 


Now, let’s celebrate May’s story contest winner (who’ll receive a free membership to danakanespanks.com)!


Grandmother’s Family Secret

 

My name is Yolanda and my parents died in an automobile accident when I was very young.  I was raised by my Aunt Consuela and brought up in the Catholic Church.  Aunt Connie was named after her great grandmother, my great great grandmother, who lived on a ranch in western Texas.  When Connie died I was the only surviving relative of Connie’s great grandmother Consuela.  My husband and I began receiving monthly letters and checks for our mineral rights from an oil company involved in hydraulic  drilling.  
 
My husband and I decided to go to western Texas and visit the ranch.  When we arrived the barn was ready to collapse; but, the house was in decent shape.  I doubted if any of the furniture had any antique value but I’m not an appraiser.  In the attic we found an old chest  that contained a family Bible, Consuela’s diary, a pearl handled revolver, a large oval ivory hairbrush with a worn smooth back, a long thin horsewhip doubled over to fit in the chest, and numerous pictures and family heirlooms.  
 
Consuela’s wedding picture depicted her as a tall stunningly beautiful Latina woman with dark hair and eyes.  Her husband had a slight build and was much smaller than Consuela and appeared to be much younger.  When we checked in the family Bible she was 28 and he was 21; but, his slender build and boyish face made him look much younger.  
 
As we drove home my husband and I were shocked by what we read in Consuela’s diary.  She had married Ollie Roberts in 1881.  Ollie was orphaned when he was 14 and taken in by neighbors who ran a hotel.  He was no more a problem in school than the other boys but his slender physique made him the constant target of bullies.  According to his many confessions to Consuela he was arrested when he was 14 for stealing cheese and found to be in possession of stolen firearms and clothes.  He escaped by climbing up the chimney and supported himself by horse thievery.  
 
Frank Cahill a local blacksmith constantly bullied Ollie.  One day he threw Ollie to the ground and started kicking him.  Ollie was only 15 when he pulled a pistol and shot Cahill who died the next day.  Ollie was later involved in the Lincoln County wars as a hired hand.  Legend has him killing 21 men but he confessed to Consuela that he had killed 7 and they all deserved to die.  By now he was known as the kid because of his slight build, beardless face, and youthful appearance.  
 
Civil War General Lew Wallace, author of “Ben-Hur”, was elected territorial governor of New Mexico and wanted to bring order.  He offered amnesty to anyone involved in the Lincoln County wars who wasn’t yet indited; but, the kid was on trial in Mesilla and found guilty of the murder Sheriff Brady and sentenced to hang.  The kid escaped and fled to Ft. Sumner.  His friend former bartender and buffalo hunter Pat Garrett was elected sheriff and staged the kids killing which allowed Billy the Kid to escape to western Texas and start a new life.  
 
Billy changed his name to Ollie Roberts, married Consuela in 1881, and converted to Catholicism.  Every Sunday they rode into town to attend the Catholic Church.  Billy confessed all of his sins to the parish priest who told him that he must be sorry and do penance if his sins were to be forgiven.  After confession when they returned home Billy sit in front of Consuela and shared his confession with her.  He confessed all of his sins from stealing cheese, clothes, firearms, horses, to killing 7 men.  Billy was not a killer who killed wantonly, they got what they deserved. 
 
Billy shared with Consuela his need for penance if his sins were to be forgiven.  Consuela insisted that his penance needed to be an  act of painful self -abasement preformed to show sorrow and repentance for his many sins.  She ordered Billy to the barn where she told Billy that he was to receive a severe horsewhipping.  He was ordered to strip naked and his hands were tied above his head  and secured to a beam.  Consuela crisscrossed his back, buttocks, and upper legs with her whip as he howled and squirmed in pain.  She untied his hands and helped Billy to the bedroom where he laid on his stomach and she rubbed ointment on his welts.  
 
In her diary she wrote how every Sunday after church she would give Billy a weekly maintaince spanking.  They would go to the bedroom where Billy would strip and she would remove her Sunday dress.  Consuela would sit on her straight backed vanity chair clad in her 19th century lingerie with the large oval ivory hairbrush in her hand.  Billy would kneel in front of his disciplinarian and ask  for a spanking as part of his penance.  He would then go over her knee for a severe no nonsense spanking.  He would kick and squirm but make no attempt struggle off of her lap.  Consuela was an excellent disciplinarian.  Her weekly spankings would continue until he was begging forgiveness for his many sins, crying real tears, and his bottom turned crimson.  She wrote that he could kick, cry, and squirm but he knew that if he ever fell off of her lap he was going to the barn for a severe whipping.  According to her diary that never happened again.  
 
Consuela suspected that Billy found a release from guilt which brought about a strange need for her weekly spankings.  Being draped over Consuela’s lovely lingerie clad lap was much more pleasurable than being tied to a beam in the barn!  After reading her diary I understood why the back of her hairbrush was worn smooth!  
 
Can you imaging the infamous Billy the Kid standing before his spanking disciplinarian, confessing his many sins, and being draped over his beautiful Latina wife’s knee doing penance for the sins of his youth?
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DanaKaneSpanks.com Sunday Update: 6/2

Balcony Bunny Hop
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This scene available to members (and on DVD) only. Not available for individual download.POV: Drunk Driving Girls
(An F/f POV)

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Reason to Cry
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Individual downloadable scenes also available on my
Clips4Sale, Scolding and SpankingLibrary studio pages.
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An entry from Angel, about learning valuable lessons.


Readers,

Angel wrote this entry on Friday, after having spent a week here in Las Vegas with me. She’s visited several times, and we always have a lot of fun. But we also always have to deal with at least one instance of Angel Behaving Badly. Although I think we’ve now effectively solved that problem through honest and direct dialogue, Angel wanted to write something to share on my blog, and I told her I thought that was a fine idea.

What follows is, in my opinion, entirely too favorable to me (and my meatloaf, for that matter) but otherwise accurate – and terribly sweet.

–  Dana

NOTE * The May story contest winner will be announced in just a couple days!



My week in Vegas and establishing boundaries

Well, this is my last day with Dana. The bad news is that I might have “slightly” irritated her, but the good news is that I know if she hasn’t strangled me yet – she likely never will. 

I think sometimes I have this maladaptive inclination to test her – sometimes for fun, but sometimes because my personal insecurities pressure me to act out to see how far the unconditional love theory goes. So far, I can ascertain that she still loves me despite my tantrums, poor communication skills, attention seeking behavior and engaging in rather bold and inappropriate Twitter bratting. (Yes, yes… I almost learned my lesson. It’s been well over half a year since I’ve been so Twitter heinous and I should probably watch my own Delrin punishment as much as everyone else does to remind me).

It’s been an interesting week. I think since this is the longest amount of consecutive time I have spent here, coupled with the fact it has been a very trying few weeks between personal issues and my blog being removed – that she has pretty much seen me in various extremes of just about all of my emotional states: sad, frustrated, bratty, bold, anxious, whiny, cranky, clingy, regressed, exhausted, amused, playful, relaxed and utterly elated. Yes, she has survived them all. My behavior was taxing at times but I think she’ll make it. I keep checking on her when she’s not looking to make sure she is alive and not ripping her own hair out or something. She is doing well. I promise.

But… I am writing this while still knowing that I am on thin ice with her until I can prove to her that I can exercise good behavior somewhat consistently. She is not mad, but I hit that plateau of behaving so erratically that it was not even punishable. But that by no means didn’t mean she didn’t know what to do with me.  What I received instead was a “big-girl” explanation of behavioral expectations and what will or will not be tolerated, which is now very fully understood. Things are much simpler for me when communicated as directives. I also learned that if I need something I need to communicate it without expecting her to be a mind reader.

This doesn’t mean I will get everything I need or think I need as soon as I ask for it, and maybe not at all – but I think I would feel much more at ease using my words and getting denied rather than acting like a brat on steroids and getting denied. (I’m going to agree with myself on her behalf because I am fairly certain she would prefer it this way as well). 

Really, I am often good with “no.” For example, I was banging on her staircase with a comb and she looked at me like I was an annoying 3 year old and (quite seriously) said, “That’s enough.” I stopped mid-bang. And those little moments are sometimes equally as powerful as a good ass whuppin. I wasn’t actively tying to annoy her, either. (Just a piece of honest information). But I don’t take those seemingly minor interactions for granted. They psychologically sustain my need to feel that rules and structure exist in the way that comforts me – which is why there are still more than half a dozen cupcakes left in the refrigerator. I was told I could have one or two a day. I have not challenged this. I don’t know what would have happened if I did… a spanking? The corner? Fresh cupcakes tossed in the trash? I chose not to challenge the cupcake rule.

I challenged other things, though. I had a bit of a smart mouth and got a few on and off camera spankings for it. But it was mostly playful… until the cane-iac strap made an appearance in a promo video. But there were still no hard feelings about it.  I felt disciplined but not really punished, which I believe was the intention. 

I think I got punished, really punished,  when the wooden spoon and bathbrush came out of nowhere after my “Twitter dare.” Either that our she takes challenges very seriously. Most likely both. I got a really hard, fast spanking… but because it still felt acceptable, and I was even giggling along with borderline crying – I continued what I thought was playing. And it probably was, even from her perspective, until I got a bit too animated and cocky which ended up not being cool. I didn’t mean it. I didn’t respect boundaries though, which made it look like I was disrespecting her – for which I feel terribly sorry. 

If my behavior has made it appear that it does not go without saying, I will now (in no uncertain terms) say it: I have so much respect (and genuine love) for Dana as a personal and professional Top and as a human being that it is literally immeasurable. So when I behave in ways that contradict that and lead others to believe that is “playing,” I am setting a poor, and rather inaccurate, example. That makes me feel ashamed, sad and worried that if I can’t recognize when it’s “enough” without the stern look, intimidating tone and the fear of possible punishment – that this will make her disinclined to want to play with (or even punish) me.

The idea of that crushes me. I had so much fun when she was just spanking me all the time the first couple of days. That’s mostly her bottom’s bottom fault because I got spanked for all his misdeeds… but it actually helped to condition my own bottom so it bruised much less easily (well until the bathbrush came out last night). I was mostly loving that until I realized there was a real possibility I’d be spanked a dozen times an hour if she followed through and that eventually she would have to conquer new territory – such as the thighs. Because as big as my butt is, it cannot withstand even a days worth of punishment on behalf of her boy. I anticipated she might have to start calf caning by the end of the week and was set to go hide the canes. Speaking of hiding things, I still don’t think she had noticed her missing “heat for the seat” paddle. It will probably be a good idea to return it today because I think today is a “no playing because you were bad” day.  

Other than that, we did some decent shooting. The videos were awesome. Just so much fun. I got to be a big girl, I got to be a little girl…although I missed Stepmommy and I guess the librarian must have retired our did not get my “I will quit spanking if you don’t show up” memo! (FYI, I can’t quit spanking. I think Dana frowns upon it).

Anyway, I even did POV’s … because they held paddles to my head and forced me while I kicked and screamed and begged for my life. Okay… maybe that part didn’t exactly happen. It’s possible they just lovingly encouraged me despite my anxiety because they are two off the greatest people on the planet. I’m still terrified about it. Eh. We’ll see what happens.

And…. I cleaned my room! I said I didn’t have to but Dana got that tone and told me I did because she said so. It felt very serious and like a rule – so from then on, I have kept it tidy. Even the bathroom. Maybe she knows this was the reason. Maybe she doesn’t. Well I guess she will now if she posts this…  

We also watched some shows on the computer, talked a lot, laughed a lot. I got to eat Dana’s dinners – a time of day to especially look forward to. (Yea. I still dream about her meatloaf, not gonna lie). I also got to have balls and bottle caps thrown at me by the instigator and watched him in his natural playful state – which very often is indicative of an impending catastrophe. People shouldn’t play where there are glasses of iced tea and computers within inches of each other. Even I know that… silly. 

Now I am resting and writing and trying to be a good girl so that Dana is happy with me (and in general) and trying to be extra extra good so that maybe she will send me off with a great big hug… and a spanking! :)

I love you, Dana. Thank you for accepting me for the very complicated person I am while at the same time illustrating that certain behaviors must be changed… without making me feel terrible about myself for my shortcomings. That’s respectable. If you post this, you can leave this in or not.

Angel


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