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Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Six



Readers,


For the last few months, I have been corresponding with a delightful lady who’s exploring her spanking interest after many years of being in the closet, so to speak. Recently she asked my opinion on:


Topping from the Bottom.  


Naturally, I have one..
I told my new friend that (at least in the context of my play) topping from the bottom is moot. For me, spanking is always consensual. We  may role-play that you’re reluctant to receive your spanking, or that you’re a terrible and incorrigible brat, but the real truth is that the only reason I have the great pleasure of spanking my playmates is that they allow me to do so. Therefore, if they choose to brat, talk back, or generally try and control the scene, it is my job as top to discourage said behavior both verbally and physically. Topping from the bottom is impossible if I am in control, and the bottom’s attempts to do so are not only amusing, but welcome.


My ‘bottom’ line? Without a bottom, there’d be no need for a top.


Tell me your opinion – what are your experiences (spankers and spankees alike) and opinions on ‘topping from the bottom’. Please share your thoughts in the comment box below.


– Dana

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6 Replies to “Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Six”

  1. I know that my first time with a mistress last year.. i did top from the bottom…
    the scenario was that i had been sent to her by my girlfriend for lying, stealing her knickers, and back chatting…

    I carried this on in the session… back chatting, trying to chat up the mistress, saying that the leather flogger she was using on my back was massaging me… commenting that it must have been a man who painted the dungeon as a woman would leave drips and smudges…

    The funniest thing was me swearing blind a didnt know where my girlfriends purple thong was, even though i was wearing it..

    Mistress tried to curb my ways by introducing me to the senior cane, and an acryllic cane, which helped..to a point.

    This was in the scenario, so i was given a lot of leeway.. but i am sure in other scenarios it may not be tolerated..

    As i am hopefully visiting with Miss Dana Kane, as she meanders over to Britain, then a scenario i have suggested allows me to engage in ‘conversation’ with Miss Kane whilst being punished..

    I will say no more, as i do like surprises…
    hope to see you very soon ma’am

    stewart(uk)

  2. Just a word of warning! Be very, very careful about topping from the Bottom with Ms. Kane. While she may find some topping from the bottom amusing and fun don’t cross the line. You won’t like how she regains control! Trust me, I have first hand knowledge and I have learned my lesson the hard way.

  3. I agree with your opinion, Ms. Kane, but would add that I like to settle on definite “do”s and “don’t”s with my partner before hand. That way there can be spontaniety during the session without drifting into territories that would ruin it for either of us.

    Phil

  4. “My ‘bottom’ line? Without a bottom, there’d be no need for a top.”

    What a succinct way of putting it. ;)

    I don’t view the top/bottom relationship as the one who is in control and the one who gives up control, I view it as the giver and the receiver. Control and consent are implied, and more, are an essential part of the deal.

    Prior to a role play spanking session with a professional (and this is really the only kind of session I do), we discuss and clarify who’s who, what game we’re playing, what reactions to expect on both sides of the paddle, and limits, both physical and emotional. As the paying customer, I want to know what I’m in for, and I want to do as much as I can to be sure that I get what I’m paying for. I don’t see this as controlling the session, just agreeing (or not, in which case there’s no session) to terms of the game before we start playing.

  5. I find the comments to be interesting. I think that topping from the bottom allows the Top a great gauge as to how effective there spanking is. I find that those that match the topping with an immediate response tend to limit the feedback they get during the spanking later on. Yet those that give the bottom alot of rope to hang themselves, find an effective point in the spanking when the topping from the bottom stops. Then It allows the disciplinarian to give a most meaningful spanking as one is reminded of their comments. Rather than reaching a point where the bottom feels that they got the spanking theey need, now it is the top that decides the amount of spanking they deserve.

    At this point, a Top can encourage more topping from the bottom. Which will make all the more impact in the bottoms mind of who is really in control.

    Bill

  6. It seems to me that there are definite differences in defining “topping from the bottom.” From what I have read above, some see it as being snarky, or a bit bratty. I can see that could “irritate” a top. I think it can also be defined as merely letting the top know if it is too hard, soft, and general feedback without the teasing/bratting.

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