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Conversations with Spankos: Chapter 21 ‘Hide and Seek’


Readers,

One of the conversations which I have with many of my spanko friends and playmates seems an inevitable one : When did we ‘find’ spanking?

Not when did we discover our interest/fascination/obsession, but when did we find the larger spanko community? 

For many, their Hide and Seek brought them, in the early days, to NuWest, Lupus, and Shadow Lane. Stand Corrected seems to be the catalyst to many spankos of that generation, being their first tangible evidence that other spankos in fact existed. Most point to classfied ads in the backs of kinky magazines and big city newspapers as the key to their finding these early treasure troves of spanko connectivity, and many in the Northeast remember Times Square as a place where sex, kink, and fetish could once be found in abundance. (I know of at least one place left in Times Square, by the way, where spanking materials may still be purchased, via a friend who has firsthand knowledge, although I’ve not visited. Yet.)

The younger generation have had the advantage of the internet to connect them to others who share their interests, so I’m sure that the path wasn’t quite as long or rocky, but I’m still interested in your first exposures to the greater spanking world – whether it was a website, magazine, or (as I’ve heard several times as well) a naughty story in Playboy or Penthouse Forum magazines.

We all Hid, but we also all Sought, and we all Found. 

For me, it was simple and somewhat shocking. After moving to Los Angeles from my teeny Texas town, I was gobsmacked by the enormity of the general BDSM scene. Although it took a while to weed the spankos out of the wider community, it became immediately obvious to me that geography means everything when it comes to fetish. If you’re in a rural area, your chances for contact with other spankos is drastically diminished, even with the internet at our disposal, and the feeling of isolation is increased. From that side of the experience spectrum, I observed that folks in the Big City appeared to have many more opportunities, much earlier, for freedom of exploration. 

I’m still coming to terms with the apparent teeming masses of spanking fetishists on the planet, and I think we’ve still only scratched the surface of ‘out’ spankos – many more in than out.

I wonder when and where they’ll find us?

–  Dana

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13 Replies to “Conversations with Spankos: Chapter 21 ‘Hide and Seek’”

  1. Playboy in 1973. 14 yrs. old. Penthouse Forum where I discovered Nu-West around 1981. Still have catalog #4. Shadow Lane was next. When EVE HOWARD (a founding mother) started she sent cut-out dinosaur coupons she made herself. I hope I still have it somewhere. Always wanted to be in a spanko study, as I can recall most things pertaining to spanking in my life. I remember the ‘Coppertone Girl’ and that was the in early 60’s. I have been fascinated by spanking my whole life. To long for a comment so I will end here.

  2. I used to look for ads in the back of local papers. I wasn’t seeking parties then-just one on one spankings. About 5 years ago I found various spanking websites that piqued my desire to delve further into my much stronger desire to get spanked by other women rather than men in my area.

    I think of it as a VERY thrilling hobby rather than a burning need to get spanked every day. I find the longer I go without, the more thrilled I feel when the next time occurs. I guess I’m more casual in my approach

  3. In the 1970’s it was Playboy and penthouse. Also there used to be alot of spanking on television and movies.

    Also there were wonderful sexual fantasy books by Nancy Friday and Xavier Hollander

    1. P.S.

      I was also able to play spanking games with one cousin and
      A few friends as a kids.

  4. pent house forums, nu west, then found a pro dome in Vancouver BC for my first adult spanking. That was in 1993, after that found them in L A. did not find out about life style Doms. tell around 2000 found Mistress or should i say she found me 9 years ago. We may not play as often as one would like but when we do it is intense.

  5. Way back in the mists of time when dinosaurs ruled the earth (the mid to late 70s)it was very difficult to find spanking material in the UK, especially if you didn’t live in a big city. Having realised I had an interest in spanking I had to content myself with the mainstream spankings that sometimes showed up on film or on television. Then I discovered London and the shops (chiefly Janus) that carried spanking related material. I was chiefly interested in the magazines as I had a few bad experiences with video as you could never be quite sure what you were buying in those days. It might be a badly copied spanking video with bad sound and jerky picture or it might turn out to be a completely different film to that you thought you had purchased. I also discovered that there were professional ladies that would let you spank them or indeed spank you. Again you had to be careful and I had several very disappointing experiences and one that was so frightening it almost put me off for ever. However the enjoyable times outweighed the bad times and I have retained my passion for spanking and related experiences to this day.

  6. Another interesting topic. So far the answers deal with “where” rather than “when” spanking was found. Going back to Playboy, Penthouse and the Coppertone ad suggest an older crowd.

    I wonder if there are spankos who can elaborate on their “find” outside of the media, and the all-to-pervasive and undeniable dependence on the internet?

    For me, my earliest memories and fascination with this wonderful topic exist in memories of game-playing with friends, in sheds and other places; witnessing spankings, a neighbor or even once on a party boat, for example. Wondering what it would feel like. The emotions and connections to feelings that a parent cared. And then all the details, position, implements, technique..

    Come on guys and gals, let’s try and stay on topic here, LOL.

    xxoo

  7. As an 8 year old I convinced an 18 month older girl to spank
    me in a shed. This became a recurring game over several
    continued shared Summers in the late fifties.
    We both had fun till she turned 12 and focused her attention
    on a 14 year old from the neighbouring farm;)

  8. Back in the 70s I used to buy FETISH TIMES and CORPORAL at the news stands where people (mostly women) would advertise their services on the back pages. SCREW MAGAZINE was big back then. In 1979 I was in NYC and took a chance with one of those advertisers. Got my spanking and have been hooked ever since!
    dglo

  9. I started looking for spanking websites when I was a teen, and I discovered an amazing world. Until I found these websites, I always thought I was weird, where I live these things are considered taboo, or things for freaks, so I was very happy when I found out I was not the only one interested in it. Unfortunately, in my country, I found out that spanking is always mixed with sex, and this is not what I’m looking for. I’m considering to travel to U.S.A. just to have a real disciplinarian spanking.

  10. I was in a second hand bookshop in 1975 and noticed a copy of Janus in the “naughty” section of the shop. (I live in the UK). There was also a copy of “Sting” that I purchased as it also catered for my fetish of femdom spanking, which seemed to be such a rarity at the time.

    The fact that there were others like me out there blew my eighteen year old mind!

    Best wishes
    Sam

  11. Life before the internet . . . it all seems like a bad dream now. Here is a blog piece I wrote about a young boy growing up in the UK and “getting kinky” . . .

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    Are we shaped by our environment . . . ?

    When I look back at my young life I can think of a series of events that triggered my life into kink and submission. As a young boy we would get a daily paper and as I got older, around the age of 10 or so I started to take an interest in flicking through the paper when I got home from school and was left to my own devices for an hour or so whilst my mother cooked the dinner. The reason I started to look through the paper was that some of the papers that my father bought had ladies baring their breasts inside. I liked those pictures but also knew I should not let anyone else know that I liked looking at them! Of course I know now that I was looking at The Sun newspaper’s Page Three girls. For this young, impressionable boy, far from demeaning women in my mind those photographs made me exalt and adulate the female form, and perhaps the first stirrings of a sort of worship.

    Quite by accident I also came across another source of opportunity to admire, adore and venerate ladies partially undressed. The Gratton mail order catalogue was a firm fixture in our household, a way of buying everyday items on credit and getting them delivered direct to your home. It was big, heavy and had lots of glossy pages. My initial interest when younger was for the toy section at the back, me and my sibling would pick which toys we wanted, but rarely got, for Christmas. As I got older I took notice of the women’s underwear section and the photographs of the models wearing the items for sale. For some reason I was particularly drawn to the images featuring corsets and girdles and the mature ladies that modeled those.

    I have no idea why they attracted me more and I still don’t to this day. I can still envision in my mind my favourite photograph . . . a curvy, full figured, dark haired mature lady wearing a girdle corset.

    However, the single event that changed my life forever happened quite a while after I had been enjoying the activities described above. I was probably about 13 when I was browsing through a daily newspaper (I think it was the Express or Daily Mail) and came across a story with a large photo of a stout, well dressed lady brandishing a cat o’ nine tails whilst standing in front of a large whipping frame. It was a story about Cynthia Payne or Madam Cyn as she became known in the British press. I was very intrigued by the photo, mainly because of her resemblance to my favoured lady in the Gratton catalogue but also by her holding a whip. I read the story and was breathless by the time I finished. Madame Cyn had slaves who served her and they were rewarded by being whipped by her! I kept that page from the newspaper for several years. I was never the same after I read that, I knew then that I wanted to be one of those slaves and that I wanted to be beaten!

    Thank you Madam Cyn.

    Full piece with photo of Madame Cyn here . . .
    http://willingsubmissive.blogspot.co.uk/2010/03/thank-you-to-madame-cyn-sun-and-gratton.html

    Great blog Dana,

    willing submissive

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