Readers,
After more than a dozen posts under the umbrella of ‘Conversations with Spankos’, I’m interested to see what you’re interested in this year. What haven’t we covered thus far that’s of interest to your spanko mind?
In the past couple years, we’ve discussed things like safe words, gender preferences, boundaries, and bratting. We’ve touched on the subjects of ageplay, ‘outing’, and whether or not the stature of your top is relevant. Some things silly, some things serious, but all things we’ve all likely talked (or thought) about at least once.
I have some ideas for the upcoming year and ‘Conversations with Spankos’ (including a post on non-corporal punishments which I’m looking forward to, and another on the differences between discipline and punishment), but I always want to know what else you want to talk about. On what other things, big or small, in the world of spanking can we share our thoughts with one another?
Talk to me, spanko people. What do you want to talk about?
– Dana
Conversations with Spankos: Ch. 15 : What do YOU want to talk about?
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I’ve been curious as to how many other straight women and men prefer or favor spanking partners of the same gender and why they lean toward those preferences.
Another topic of MAJOR annoyance to me is the age “limitations” imposed upon spanking video actors. Other than the requirements of being at least 18 years of age, there seems to be no cap for the age of tops-males in particular. But it seems that when female bottoms reach the ripe old age of 35-it’s implied they’re NOT as appealing or marketable. I know not all major producers believe this-I’ve had the pleasure of working with 2 great companies and based on feedback from viewers/fans…MANY people DO appreciate “older” models and have expressed this on various blogs so I don’t understand why some companies choose to limit their casts.
Ma’am.
Well fist off, otk hand spankings?
Panty spankings?
Why is the industry heading to more severe?
Thank you
Always
Ron
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From the perspective of a Top, can you talk about how a sub/bottom should go about asking for a spanking when they can’t really ask for it? Unless it’s just me, asking directly removes some fundamental component of the process of being disciplined or punished. I guess because I relate very well to age-play, I can’t imagine myself in “little” mode asking to be spanked. In reality, it’s all obviously consensual but for me it’s much more thrilling to have the illusion of being “involuntary” punished. Yet, it’s often a problem for Tops who misunderstand cues in their bottoms behavior and don’t understand that acting out can just be the only way they can ask for punishment without having to verbalize the words and compromise the fantasy. Some Tops will respond angrily and become abusive. Some will withhold discipline altogether as the punishment. What is one to do when s/he needs disciplinary attention that feels genuine without making the Top feel pressured into it, or taken advantage of or provoking her/him to actual non-playful anger? I don’t think anyone, as far as I have seen or read – has really addressed this in a way that made it seem like there is a possibility for resolution. There are so many gray areas, but I think it’s worth talking about. Since you are one of the very few who have a high tolerance for bratting and understanding the needs of people who can’t come right out and say, “Hey, I need to be spanked,” I’d be really interested in knowing your perspective. Love you :)
I would love to see a discussion on Angel’s question about “how to ask when you don’t have the gumption to really ask”? I told my Disciplinarian I would never ask for a spanking for real life issues? But are there ever real life issues or is it really just games(which is asking for it)? You know what will come if you don’t do your “chores” week after week, for example. That’s pretty cut and dry, but yes what about the gray areas? I think being completely blindsighted or caught off guard whereas the Top stays one step ahead of their Bottom then spanked as a true punishemnt for a misdeed causes an instant fear of the unexpected spanking. No need for cues really in that case and not pleasureable most likely for the Sub who would less likely mess about again. But I agree, it’s much more thrilling to have the illusion of being “unvoluntarily” punished. How do both Tops and Bottoms keep “real” from crossing with fantasy? It can be very confusing and then disappointing at times speaking as a spankee. Or maybe that’s the point, the bottom is being punished by being ignored or maybe the disciplinarian is “not” really catching your cues?
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One subject that I personally think would be of interest would be different spanking positions, and why, if any reason, would someone prefer or dislike one position as opposed to another. A former top and I used to always seem to have different favorite positions, and this is something I have often wanted to discuss in more detail.
This doesn’t help with Dana’s request for topics, but I had some thoughts about Alexis’s post. As an older fellow, it’s maybe easier to imagine myself in the role of an older male spanker. And for many, that’s part of watching a video – imagining yourself in one of the roles.
On the other hand, I’d also enjoy seeing a younger man spanking an older woman. Especially if the older woman was quite worldly and couldn’t imagine a younger man capable of carrying it off. Then, in the course of the spanking, that could change :)
How about sharing some of our most craziest/funniest/awful spanking experiences.
Years ago, I worked in a very non busy office setting where there was literally hours of downtime to pass. This was when the internet was really getting on it’s feet. I found spanking related websites and began contacting potential play partners. I KNOW this was bad judgement to do so on company time.
Anyhow, I set up a lunch date with a guy who said he looked like George Clooney. We met and I immediately laid eyes on a skeleton in a suit with next to no hair on top of his head. I was polite through lunch but decided this person was deceptive about something so EASY to uncover that he wasn’t worth any more of my time in ANY capacity.
Anonymous-That sounds very thrilling to me-too. I LOVE the idea of the younger person spanking the older one-especially in the F/F dynamic and the M/F one. If the woman is bossy, domineering and trying to walk all over the younger guy-the fact he’d show HER who’s “boss” is exciting! :)
I would like to see spanking people post real life spontaneous spanking. Such reviews can list being spanked by or by giving a spankings with : a boss or neighbor ; a school teacher ; a new acquaintance;
A mother , an aunt, a friend, or coworker.
It would also be interested to read about the spanking life and early spanking memories. Even to relate to spankings that may have started the spanking fetish.
The posts should not be too long.
Even relate what x
Miss Dana,
I would like to know if tops have a desire to see “Tan Lines” on their bottoms.
I would like for someone to discuss the issue of what influences pain tolerance, both mental and physical factors. Sometimes I can endure a spanking that almost amounts to torture, sometimes I can’t take a simple hand spanking. Personally I’ve noticed that if a Top uses certain language or talks to me in a certain way that it has a major effect on whether or not I can endure pain. A maternal tone regresses me and my tolerance diminishes, significant pain not necessary to make a point. Other times if a Top is strict but lavishes with praise, it’s incentive to want to endure the pain even if I think I can’t… and usually, I can. Curious to know if others have certain triggers that make them able or unable to endure pain.
I dont know if it would work in this category, but I was curioous and if others wondered why personally you choose to show the faces of all females, but not the faces of the men in your vids. I know there is a few, but was wondering if there is an actual reason for that? Preference? Statistics? More men viewers who like to put themselves in place of?? etc.. Just was curious….
Thanks to everyone for your input on future Conversations. There are some excellent points here, and we’ll have lots to keep us busy this year.
– Dana
If my other comment was too long, here is a short version . . .
I am intrigued and interested in canings of the Mood-castings type. I would enjoy discussion of this type of caning, in several areas: severity, healing, drama and intrigue, and the idea of a screenplay about a sorority that canes in this way.