Readers,
Get your minds out of the gutter – this is about spanking.
Over the last couple years that I’ve been playing professionally there have been numerous times that new playmates have commented, “Wow, you’re bigger than I expected!” upon meeting me. Most recently, a poor boy with his legs pinned under me as I spanked him relentlessly with my palms exclaimed, “You’re too skinny to be able to hit that hard! How can you do that?”. (For the record, I am 5’8″ and 120lbs.)
I guess that, at least to our imaginations, size matters.
In reality, one’s size has little to do with the severity of the spanking which he or she can dish out – or take. The most perfect example is Dana Specht. Dana is petite, but fierce. There’s nothing about her countenance or stature that would suggest weakness, is there?
Even though he is nearly twice her size, this boy looks duly humbled in the presence of Dana Specht.
Conversely, some spankers are built like warrior-goddesses, and their imposing physiques strike fear into playmates long before the spanking ever begins. Miss Chris comes to mind here, naturally, as her 6′ height and reputation for the hardest hand spanking attest.
Looking utterly feminine, and equally ferocious, Miss Chris is intimidating.
Then there are the spankees: Some with teeny little bum’s like two apples who can take a severe walloping (as in the case of my Bottom’s bottom), and some with generous backsides that are unprepared for anything more than a nice, stinging hand spanking. There are countless spanko sizes, and so many abilities surpassing our physical makeups, so my question is:
Does size matter to you? (Are you more likely to prefer a spanker/spankee who’s smaller, therefore having the element of surprise – or someone who you find physically intimidating from the outset?
– Dana
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I don’t think size matters in a spanker as much as attitude. My Mistress is considerably shorter than me but her stern, no nonsense demeanour means that I rarely even notice. As for the size of the person receiving the punishment again I don’t think size matters. Years ago when I started enjoying spanking and caning I was a slim 9 stone with small boyish buttocks. Now I’m a rather less svelte 12 stone(ish)with a larger bottom but I haven’t noticed any difference in my reaction to the cane etc. I can take more punishment now but I think that’s more a matter of practice than size. To conclude I would say that enjoying a good punishment session is down to the respect and appreciation of the people involve rather than the size. I may sometimes fantasise about being punished by some amazonian women but in reality I know that my Mistress is the perfect match for me.
I’m 6ft and a fairly solid 215lbs. But I have no problem feeling “small” when I’m being spanked by a woman. Being spanked by a smaller woman is a fun dichotomy.
Thank you, Simon, for your thoughts. It’s true – we all change and morph over time, some of us getting larger, some getting smaller. But the truth is in your statement “in reality I know that my Mistress is the perfect match for me.”
Dana
Anonymous,
Exactly. I enjoy the look of surprise on a playmate’s face (as mentioned in the post) when my little hands land so heavily on his or her backside…hard.
Dana
Hello Dana,
It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog! I am fit 6 ft. and 220 pound fellow and my wife, though not petit, is much smaller than I. This size difference has absolutely no effect on her authority and on her ability to reduce me to a teary eyed little boy with her hairbrush, paddle, and strap. I think that being a good disciplinarian is more attitude than size.
JayJay
Well said, JayJay!
Dana
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Incorrigible,
I’ve removed your comment, as your name appeared at the bottom and I’m always concerned for commenter’s privacy.
That being said, I am certain that you will soon learn to fear your diminutive spanker, and she will find out just how much fun you are!
Dana
I would love to find a spanker who is taller than me at 6ft 4 inch.
But as that is unlikely I find myself lowering my head. Maybe because I am in the presence of somebody who is going to spank me. More likely I am evading the ladies eyes, especially if I have been winding her up..
But it doesn’t matter because over somebodies knee, even with most of me resting on the bed as I am not exactly petite, we are all the same height.
I have enjoyed spankings, canings and all sorts of CP with ladies of many sizes and shapes. Indeed, the very hardest OTK I have received was from a lady no taller than 5’5″. However, there have been times when I just needed to be spanked by a lady who could physically keep me in position until she was sure she had got her message across.
Yes, I know that it is the submission that counts. Yes, I also know that anyone could immobilise me by tieing me to a bench. But there are times when I crave the inescapable leg and arm lock while a hairbrush causes all my attention to be focussed on my bottom.
At 6’1″ and let us just say heavier than ideal, I do find that part of my contribution to spankings is trying to remain over the knee. Kind of the opposite to that helpless feeling.
Please do not get me wrong, I remain very grateful to all spankers and have thoroughly enjoyed most experiences. But, very occasionally, there is a little part of me that wants to be overpowered and spanked whatever I say and do. And now I feel a little bit guilty about those thgoughts.
Interesting question, and one that seemingly provokes a wide range of responses. As for me, I don’t think size has anything to do with it. What we are dealing with here is a special chemistry, a give-and-take interaction where the intent, technique, timing and human interaction introduce so many variables that the part can never equal the whole. And if that chemistry is right, the spanking experience will go far beyond anything physical, mental, emotional, or even psychological. It defies analysis.
I am 6’4″ the Wonderful Wife is 5’4″ and she is more than capable of pulling me over her lap for a good hard OTK. I find it rather exciting to be put in my place by someone who is half the size I am. There is nothing that makes me feel more submissive than to be spanked by someone much smaller than me. Of course when You and the Wonderful Wife start tag teaming me the last thing I think about are your sizes I’m just trying to survive your on slot
mooski,
I remember being nearly as tall as you (in 5″ heels!).
Andles,
While I can understand the desire to be ‘outsized’ by your spanker, I recall your fitting nicely across my lap.
Anonymous,
Thank you for the well-thought-out comment. It seems that there are as many answers as spankos.
VBB,
You and your WW are the perfect example of the fact that size does not matter. She’s tiny, and you’re towering, but when she gets that look in her eye, there’s no mistaking who’s boss.
Dana
Size Makes no difference once your over ones knee ,ive found that smaller women can spank just as hard or harder than very tall women ( except maybe Ms Chris her hands can sting i know and have felt them a few times ) The fact i prefer a long hard hand spanking OTK i know that the lady can be any size to give it to me and leave me with a very red and sore tush
i dont think size matters.
I agree with all the previous posters who’ve said that size is one of the least important elements. Attitude, trust, style and technique are the things that matter. On a historical note, it is said that one of the reasons why the cane became the instrument of choice in English schools in Victorian times was that it was equally effective in the hands of a woman as a man, and most teachers at that time were women. The testimony of recipients bears witness to their prowess – a noble tradition that you, Dana, and others maintain so well.
UKL
Yes, Dana, I certainly did fit over your knee and hope to do so again. The being outsized dynamic is just one of many fantasies. The feeling of helplessness can also be there by many other means, several of them just strength of mind and determination of the spanker. Far more important than size is the ability and willingness to deliver a good, sound spanking and I have been fortunate enough to play with several who can dish out real humdingers.
So, in answer to your original question, size does not matter, but maybe different emotions can come into play depending on respective sizes.
For me, size does not matter in the sense in which you are asking it. If I see an advertisement or website of a potential spanking provider who seems to be moderately overweight, that would be a factor is my perhaps choosing not to see her, unless there were many very clear positive reviews.
ET,
I have heard from many sources that Miss Chris gives a real walloping hand spanking. Consider yourself lucky to be among those with that knowledge.
UKL,
I look forward with much anticipation to demonstrating the effectiveness of the cane on your backside..again.
Andles,
Agreed. Emotional responses mean everything.
David,
There is certainly something for everyone. Thank goodness.
Dana
Though Ms Chris has hard hands ,judging from what i have seen from you on film im quite sure a trip over your lap and your hard left hand can do just as well if not better a job and hopefully in the near future i’ll find out
My wife stands a towering 5’2” 120ish and I stand 6’1” 240ish. I can attest that she has no problems pulling my over her knee and thoroughly spanking me. No small thanks to your “Tips for Tops” My once timid vanilla wife is now a spanko enthusiast. I am going bankrupt on Arnica cream!!!
PS. She even had the idea (insistence) of us visiting you for a session when visiting my brother in Las Vegas. **gulp gulp**