Readers,
I thought it might be fun to do a Q&A on the blog, giving readers the opportunity to ask questions, to which I’d then reply. Then I thought it may be interesting to video the thing instead. I’d read and reply to questions asked and post up the video here, maybe monthly or every couple months or whatever.
This will be an experimental Video Q&A. Anyone who wants can ask a PERTINENT question in the comments box below (please don’t email me questions…be nice and put ’em all in the same place, below) and I’ll answer as many as possible in a video.
I’ll leave the questions open for a few weeks then post up the answer video.
Please keep in mind that this is not an AMA. You cannot ask me anything. Be polite, behave, and be on topic (spanking. duh).
Okay, get to the questions….or not. We’ll see what happens.
– Dana
This might be an obvious one. A lot of us have known we were spankos from an early age. For me, it was a gradual realization that I was obsessed with spanking…not any one event that comes to mind. Any “ah hah” moments for you where you knew you were destined to become a serious spanker/disciplinarian?
Thanks!
BT
Ms Dana, do your friends and family know of your career in the spanking world ?
Good morning Dana. What is the most serious spanking you have had to administer?
Which implements are most likely to produce stinging sensations and which are most likely to produce thuddy ones?
how do u meet someone who has the same kink as u
This is gonna be fun everybody. I’m going to try and be witty and not bore you all totally to death with my replies.
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If you were to discribe the “real world” profile of your average client, socially, financially, professionally,etc.in two sentances….what would they be.
If you could spank anyone from history or the present day….who and why?
How would you adjust your punishment spanking style for someone who has a low pain tolerance vs someone who can take a lot?
Dana, I am a switch I am 6’3″ and weigh around 260. I have been into spanking for at least 30 years. I started by administering spankings. At some point the recipient would say that I did the same thing that earned her a spanking shouldn’t I be spanked. I always had that desire and a couple times I started to unbuckled my pants and hand my strap to the lady and ask how she wanted be positioned. At that point she would back down. I didn’t get my first spanking until 20 years later. I had a playmate for 8 months and was spanked at least twice a week. I spanked her as well but only by hand. I always had my bottom blistered with hairbrush, strap,etc etc.I would then be made to perform orally front and rear.
I find it very difficult to find a lady to switch and also to spank hard. I have never been spanked to tears.
Can you give me any suggestions on finding a lady for a fulfilling LTR which includes give and take spankings and other domestic discipline.
Thank You
I am intrigued to know what others and you think or know of the canings done by “mood” in mood-castings.com or Mood-pictures.com.
In about January 2013, I was searching for caning videos and came across some free videos of these types. In mood-castings potential models or actresses are given the chance to be caned up to 50 strokes, with the option of stopping and quitting along the way.
In mood-pictures, those who have gone through the casting without too much of a “I-must-quit” problem “get” to act in a feature film with some plot and they then get caned, strapped or whipped 50 to 100 strokes, intertwined in a plot in which they have done some bad behavior or some wicked mistress has power over them and gives the strokes out anyway.
The canings are pretty tough and are tougher than what I would normally expect in an American-mistress or disciplinarian caning. In about 1/4 cases, the caning breaks the skin several times, and in 1/3 to 1/2, the skin is badly welted, without breaking it obviously.
I have traded emails with Ludwig a history professor from Germany who canes and who provided 2 of the canings in 2 of the feature films. He says that after even a caning of mood-severity one will heal up completely, generally speaking, at least in terms of the skin.
The canings are interesting in terms of the fact that they last only 5 to 10 minutes, but obviously provide some serious pain. About half of the people trying the caning give up along the way to the 50 strokes.
Do you regard these are interesting or way too severe and unreasonable? Are they something a somewhat sane person could or “should” want, from your point of view?
I don’t have the money to fly to Hungary . . . yet . . .
Have you ever given someone an “unplanned” public soanking? Or a planned public spanking? (Spanking parties don’t count) If so, what did they do to earn a spanking?
One might need to know these things in case one decides to act a fool in public. Surely you wouldn’t do that. Surely?!
Hi Dana…im across the pond in the UK…Di have any plans to visit in near future?..do u know many folks in the scene over here?….thank you…xx
Thank you for providing this opportunity! My mind has been racing a bit. I will post the 2 I can’t decide between and leave it to your discretion.
I have enjoyed the dynamic between you and your bottom from the videos posted on spankingtube.com a great deal. His reactions and vocalizations and your “oh, come now” light-hearted dismissals of his antics are so very funny. I would imagine relationship that “intimate” (for lack of a better word) and long-standing is quite powerful. How would you label it? Professional only? Friends outside of spanking? The reason I am asking, is I have been in a mentoring/disciplinary relationship and care very much for the person I have been asked to mentor. I just want to keep appropriate boundaries.
The other question relates to when in the midst of disciplining. You always seem to be in complete control, doing and saying exactly the right thing at any given moment. Are there ever moments of nervousness? Missteps? How do you respond and recover?
Thanks again! Your insight and openness is much appreciated.
Does your hand hurt very much when you give a hand spanking?
I love your product testing clips for caniac. Do you take request
for implements to test,
Dana,
We all know your fondness for the cane, but aside from that, what is your favorite implement to use on the guys? gals?
This is a great idea, Dana. Thank you for offering this Q&A. It will be great to see things from our Top’s perspective.
When you address real life problems with your playmates is it difficult to restore you normal easygoing interactions if either you or the spankee is feeling pissed off, unfairly punished or overly defensive during the punishment?
What are the dangers of hand strapping and is there a correct way to do it?
Ms. Kane,
I am a spanko and I’m consumed by spanking. Fortunately, I have a wife that supports a DD relationship. My problem is that I am still ashamed that I “need” to be spanked and feel like a total burden 90% of the time. What, if any, advice can you give me?
For those of you who’re not seeing your comments here:
It’s possible that you did it wrong.
Go back up to the top and read the part where I say ‘be polite, behave, and be on topic’. This also includes, since you appear to have not been aware when inquiring, questions about my sex life, my playmate’s sexual tastes, or just about anything that relates to sex or sexual functions.
We talk about spanking here – I know, I know, sex and spanking CAN go hand in hand, but they don’t HAVE to – and I’m choosing to keep the conversation off our frontsides and on our backsides.
Feel free to ask another question or two.~
These are questions I always like to ask a spanker:
How did your interest in spanking start?
What is your favorite spanking experience? What was the worst?
What type of spanking is your favorite to give (disciplinary, motivational, playful, etc.)?
What do you like about spanking/what are your reasons for spanking?
I am a very big fan of the VBB, I am amazed how hard of a spanking he can take. Do you and the Wonderful wife ever feel he may be too tough for you two to really bring him under your control? It seems like in the Videos he always comes out a head. How do you plan for a session with him? Are you ever worried before having a session with him?
First Time Poster
Mary Ann
What would your advice be to someone who has never come out of the proverbial spanking closet? I know that neither my family or friends would condone even thinking about such things and therefore, I have never said anything to anyone. This has made it very difficult for me because it often leaves me feeling alone especially knowing that if I were to ever tell anyone that I know, I would be looked down upon.
Excellent question! I’ll answer this one, and all the rest (hopefully) in a few weeks.
Keep ’em coming!
Ooh, I just thought of one more question. Back in December you made a post about your hard limits as a spanker, and said something about allowing someone to remain partially clothed against your better judgment if they had an aversion to nudity. My question is, why do you like to spank someone fully nude versus partially clothed?
Sorry I have multiple questions here.
Is there a way to alternate between sting and thud sensation during a bare bottomed hand spanking?
I’ve found out during rare self spanking experiments the spanks feel like punches not stinging smacks. LOL!!!
Does that have something to do with hand size, force or type of spanking motion?
Ms Kane,
Have you ever been angry at someone of your playmates? If yes, what did you do? Would you ever consider to forgive someone who might have said or done something that made you really angry?
I have been into spanking for over 60 years, but latterly have had to seriously restrict my severity of receiving, due to a seriously vanilla wife, who sadly is approaching the stage of having to go into a care home! Sad though that is, when she does, I still want to continue with receiving Spankings – but at 79 now, I don’t think I will heal up as well as I used to! So, given the fact that I like my spankings to be as severe as is possible, without risking long-lasting (or permanent) damage, What implements would you advise, to give the MAXIMUM pain, but with MINIMUM risk?
Since you routinely say that the “bottom” is in control of their spanking. Then why do you say that a very “toppy” person (in their real life) needs to give up control when receiving a spanking? And when one is receiving a punishment spanking, who is in control? And what is your feeling about topping from the bottom? I think in a perfect scenario a disciplinarian (once a connection is established and trust is in place) would take control and not give the bottom the option of being in control.
Outside of using your hand, paddle or belt which are more “traditional” ways of delivering an old fashion spanking (to me) it seems that most other implements borderline the BDSM scene. What are your thoughts on that? Is there a very thin line between being a spanko and being in the BDSM scene? Or are they the same thing? Being spanked with giant, scary implements (not that I have been spanked with any) makes me wonder if there is not more at play here (no pun intended!). Thoughts? “Different strokes for different folks” I assume?
Many times when I’m being spank by you, The WW or both of you i find myself grabbing hold of a pillow. I’m not sure why i do this. It might be for head support, maybe for moral support ( feeling like someone is holding me). It also seems to be an effective way to stifle screams that would other wise cause an unfair smack to the leg. Not really sure, do other people grab hold of pillows during their spankings? Why do you think this is?
TheVBB