There are many opinions and preferences when it comes to spanking play – or domestic discipline, or corporal punishment, or however you choose to classify it – and I believe that each of us is entitled to his or her own thoughts on the practice. Some spanking enthusiasts seek out guidance, refinement, or behavior modification, while others are sexually or psychologically gratified. Every experience is different (thank goodness), and every one of us, too.
Within the arena of spanking play, many variables come into play, including gender preference, discipline style, non-corporal punishments, and role-play or fantasy fulfillment. Within those, even more variables exist, such as whether one enjoys specifics like corner time, mouth soaping, etc., or whether one prefers to regress to a previous time in life.
Regression: A return to a former or less developed state.
While many prefer their discipline play ‘straight up’, as it were, just as many others like to experiment with role-play – allowing themselves the freedom to feel, think, or behave in a different manner than usual. Sometimes this takes the form of age play, wherein one or more participants pretend to be at an age disparate with their current years. Most often, one of us is behaving in a less mature manner, while the other takes the role of nurturer, teacher, or authority figure.
Age play isn’t everyone’s interest (no more than is caning), but for those who enjoy the fantasy, it is best described as a mini-vacation from adult responsibility. For a lot of age-players, this is not a sexual fantasy but one of innocence.
In my experience, role-play can be a truly fun and rewarding addition to spanking – especially if all participants are really invested in the fantasy. This includes age play, and the willingness to turn over ones responsibilities..even if only for a short time.
– Dana
P.S. I am interested in your opinions, thoughts, and preferences on this subject, as always. Please share in the comment box below.
Thoughts on Age-play
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Hi
Glad you had a good time in London. Judging by the photo in the last post you certainly left an impression on at least one Englishman!
In our marital spanking we tend to be in “real age” time when spankings or thrashings are given to me.
However in my masturbation fantasy world I usually imagine myself in the 18-24 age bracket.
When my wife is assisting me in hand relief she will frequently tell a story involving me in the 18 year old student age bracket – e.g. French Teacher deals with naughty senior schoolboy.
The mind is a wonderful thing – it can take one almost anywhere, including over your lap if I so choose.
Have a good Easter if you are Christian or a happy holiday if you are not.
Regards
Michael M
Miss Dana, thank you so much for sharing your blog with us. I am interested to see your post on age play. My Top and I always utilise age play in our play, actually she gets to play, I invariably end up in tears.
Never having been to a pro disciplinarian before I was not sure what to expect and Aunty soon put me at ease by taking control of the situation, now whenever we play she is Aunty and I am her very naughty nephew. For the most part we take actual circumstances and bring them into our play. For example my problem taking my diabetic medication resulted in a very severe hairbrush spanking followed by 24 strokes of her cane. Aunty will punish me if I have been cheeky to mama( my wife ) if I spend too much time on the internet and for lying.
A typical spanking normally starts off OTK by hand as a warm up, followed by a dose of Aunty’s favourite slipper. This is normally finished off with a dose of her ebony hair brush excepting when I have been really naughty then I get the cane as well
There’s really not too much to add – Dana has summed up the situation so well. The great thing about our scene is that it’s non-judgemental and caters for all our individual whims, fancies and preferences. But here’s a personal observation from my recent experience. One of my realisations after the wonderful session with Dana (as in my recent post) was that it was the first time for a very long time that I’d got on such a ‘high’. The fact is it was a ‘straight’ session – no age-play, no naughty boy scenario, just the interaction of two people engaging in what they enjoy – spanking and being spanked. More often my play sessions do involve naughty boy scenarios, and yes, I do enjoy them, but both the focus and result (mentally) are different. Maybe this is simply proof that variety is the spice of life, and there are many ways in which to explore our various spanking needs and desires.
UKLaureate
Too true UKL.
Miss Kane has summed it up very eloquently.
For me it is allowing myself to revisit something i have done in the past, and not got caught for.
But I take it well past serious and into absurbity just to wind up the domme, via back chatting normally.. trying to get up half way through, keeping in my character I have chosen.
I can say the most bizarro lies with a straight face… knowing that I will get found out, and the truth will come out, so not only am I being punished for what I did, but I am being punished for lying so badly.
I nearly made Miss laugh with my excuse, and I am sure with a longer session I would of been more outrageous, and kept the lie up even more.
If I haven’t said it before Miss, thank you for allowing me to see you, and allowing me to let my lies get so out of hand,
Though the knicker stealing gophers do exist..
Stewart(uk)
Brilliant post, you are just beautiful. Yes I love age play but with the knowledge we are all adults here, long otk spanking, nothing better.
Happy Easter
Dana, in your blog comments I have much bravado and call you Dana and act like we’re equals. But in person, you’d be the strict third-grade teacher, Ms. Kane, who long-ago threatened me with a paddling but never followed through (don’t you feel bad about that lost opportunity?) The age discrepancy would work because you do “authoritative” really well :) and in my mind I could regress enough to feel nervous and excited about that dynamic.
I’m sure the teacher-student dynamic is common. To experience that scenario, I’d seek out a person that was both intelligent and had a sense of humor. I think you must be be very successful because you have those two elements and in addition what appears to be a sense of caring about the people you discipline. Probably there are many who enjoy an ass-beating by someone who loathes them (putting it crudely), but you seem to do the other very well and that must attract many to you as a disciplinarian. (And maybe if you were to “expand”, you could surround yourself with disciplinarians who had similar characteristics?)
The regressing would allow me to forget about the present, the worries and thoughts most of adults have, and experience pain/excitement/submission/. But I’d probably laugh and slip out of the role despite best efforts, so that sense of humor is great to have (and display in your videos).
Anyway, I think there are lots of us who would love to regress with some age/role-play. Thanks for bringing this most excellent topic up.
Anthony
Dana,
As you know from our sessions together, general I do enjoy some type of ‘role play’ generally more closely matching my real age. That said, it is just that, my role play and you bring the role play to a level of reality not often matched and in so doing, just so much fun. Which make your spankings, which really do hurt for days following, so very entertaining. So, in my mind, if one is into age play, I would imagine you would do for them, the same. Bring the age play to a level of reality that the spankee becomes that age. It is both part of your charm and talent that you can bring such reality over your lovely knee. So here here Dana, keep giving each of us the very spankings that we both need and desire. Your’s is not a job but an adventure Dana and we are lucky to have you ;)
E in Seattle
age play?…….i love it. either being treated as a naughty boy over the knee, or as a naughty teenager bent over for the cane, and preferably a combination of the two. its not the pain i particularly like, its the fact the woman is in control!
peter
As an aside..I am jealous of those that can be themselves in a play session.
Due to something that Miss Kane knows about from my past, I put myself into these characters, even though I do trust who I session with. I cannot be myself.
Maybe one day I will be ‘Stewart’ and stop protecting the real me…which will probably turn out to be the bratty teenager I always project.
stewart(UK)
I would love to see you playing a stern mom giving a spanking to a naughty little boy.
For me F/M spanking ALWAYS involves ageplay. That’s really the best part of the fantasy for me. I’ve noticed a bit of a reluctance from the spanking community to make videos with realistic ageplay. It’s ok to make ABDL videos where an adult pretends to be a baby being taken care of by mommy (even with sexual content) and it’s ok to film an adult being spanked by someone but for some reason people feel guilty about combining the two. When a spanking producer films a scene with ageplay (3rd grader being spanked by mom for instance) they always do it in a skittish way and never fully commit (and usually it’s barely ageplay at all like an 18 year old pretending to be 17 and a half).
There’s something about hitting and age-play that some just can’t handle. For instance the domme will make a point of saying “you’re a grown man/woman” and try to offer some lame explaination of why he or she is acting or being treated like a child in the movie (I guess they feel it’s more acceptable to portray themselves spanking a retarded adult with the mental capacity of a toddler?).
The ABDL community doesn’t even try to excuse themselves and I salute them for it.
To be honest I get a little sick of going to adult spanking websites (even ones with no age-play) and finding some big disclaimer on the front page saying “we do not believe in spanking children and our site is just harmless adult fantasy with models of legal age” or some link to an anti-spanking activism website.
A persons opinion on spanking as a legitimate form of discipline has absolutely nothing to do with your porn site people so relax.
I think everyone’s enlightened enough these days to recognize that age-play is a harmless and perhaps theraputic fantasy and if not then don’t bother us it’s your problem. We’re all adults and we can do whatever we want.
Ageplay is considered sexy in nearly every culture including America and it’s certainly not confined to the spanking community. Unfortunately spankos are the only ones who feel guilty about it.
The first person bold enough to open up a site devoted entirely to ageplay spanking is going to make a fortune!