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Proof of Life, or else

Everyone,

I don’t have to draw your attention, regular visitors, to the fact that the blog’s been woefully light on updates of late. Since I don’t let any of you get away with lame excuses, I won’t make any either.

Okay, I’ll just make a few, and it’ll only take a minute : I’ve been busy. My house is still wrecked. And I’ve been somewhat uninspired in the direction of writing of late. Nothing tragic or fatal, just a lack of new and interesting anecdotes and a hesitance to post fluffy crap just for the sake of posting.

Since the above stuff, it’s been hard to figure out what to tell you all about, until I logged in to the blog’s admin today. Then I had something to write about. Someone helped me out, and for that I’m grateful.

A reader left a comment on my birthday post, ‘Perspective #43’, calling me out for not sharing more intimate and candid photos of myself and my life.

While I often share stories and ridiculousness, usually in the form of TUS (Totally Unrelated to Spanking) posts, I rarely attach photos. This much is true. The reasons for the absence of photo proof of my day-to-day doings are pretty simple :

– I am not surgically attached to my smart phone. I actually have to look for the damn thing half the time when I want to use it, and even when I find it, have to turn it ON before use.

– As stated in the above referenced post, I am now 43 years of age. “Selfie” is not a part of my vocabulary, and I like it that way.

– Most practically, I do not wear cute skirts and eyeliner most of the time. Vanity precludes me from showing the world what I look like when I wake up in the morning. (You’re welcome.)

– And finally – most important of all – it’s none of your business. Really. I love you all as much as is reasonably acceptable, but my entire life is not anyone else’s peepshow. Yours isn’t mine, either, and rightfully so.

This whole ‘look into my life 24/7’ thing that we’ve all become so accustomed to makes us think it’s acceptable to fuss at someone for not leaving their drapes open at night. Personally, I think we’d all be better off if we kept a little more to ourselves.

With that all said, each person is entitled to his or her opinion(s), and I hope that the poster of the originally referenced comment understands that I am entitled to mine. I won’t be taking more selfies.

– Dana

37 Replies to “Proof of Life, or else”

  1. I totally get it. You definitely deserve your privacy. Everyone does! Right? Thank you for always sharing your TRUTH! That’s what matters most. ‘In my opinion.’

    Love you!
    Kay

    2. Bratty Kay :)

      I so AGREE with your opinion. Authenticity is so hard to find these days. Dana, makes herself more accessible then most in her career field. I hope people get that…and appreciate her efforts, as well as, her privacy.

      Looking forward to your next video. I hope all is well in your world.

      Stacy

  2. That commentor was obnoxious. EVERYONE is entitled to privacy. Not everything needs to be accessible to others. NOT everyone you/we/ come into contact will be your friend or even likeable.

    That term “selfie” is ALSO obnoxious. Even worse are the “selfie sticks” some people use to hold their phones just so to capture the umpteenth “sexy” “trout pout” expressions.

    Your home renovation sounds very un fun. Hang in. OXXO

    1. Kelly,

      I think sometimes we’re just in a bad mood for a host of other reasons and accidentally let slip on others. I hope the commenter is having a better day, today. I am! oxxo

  3. Hugs Ms Kane I agree you have a life of your own and it is so hard to separate the Life here and your Vanilla life,
    You post all the pictures and Video clips just as you like and if someone does not feel it is enough they should find a new site and or person to Lust after!
    OK you floored me just now saying your 43 Wow you look great!
    But with that said Those who know you R/T know you are a Sweet caring Lady who goes out of her way to help others and treat everyone with respect and Love!
    That is how you should be treated also!
    I hope this was not to harsh or says What an Awesome friend you are and Please don’t change being you for anyone but you ;-)

  4. Apologies for not commenting for a while..Hope You are well.. And embracing life as You rampage towards the 43rd year of saturnalia..

    And in response to the above manuscription You do take the ultimate selfie… It’s called POV videos…

    And long may they continue..

    Mooski
    Xx

    1. So GREAT to hear from you, Mooski! I hope that you’re well and wonderful way over there, and getting spanked *regularly*! oxxo

    1. While I can’t see stuff on FetLife, Phil, I’m sure others will love it..

  7. You are so LOVED just the way you are and in whatever manner you choose to show yourself to the world, or not.

    I hope that individual learned a valuable lesson re: Privacy. Life is full of lessons around ever corner. Thank goodness we have such an amazing, caring, conscientious, smart, funny, and extremely talented Disciplinarian like you, to keep us in line :)

    Glad you are having some fun ;) Bringing in 43 with quite the ‘sting’. Good on ya’!!

    Huge Hugs,

    Stacy

    2. Diddo Stacy.

      You ROCK!!!!

      PS: Thanks for your post on the Bratty Kay vid. You are very sweet! I want to get your email!!

      Bratty Kay

  8. I usually lurk about and read everyone else’s comments, but I actually saw the comment this post is about, and it did strike me how accustomed we are to having that “inside look”. There’s asking and there’s being pushy… That sort of pushy isn’t endearing. Hopefully they understand and learn. Im sure I can speak for all of us: we all think you’re beautiful.

    Kayla

    1. Kayla,

      Thanks for making your first comment such a nice one. Welcome, and feel free to stick around.~

  9. Everybody needs something in their life that they don’t share with the whole world, even if it is something simple. Too many people share every move they make in a day on Facebook and Twitter, and, sadly, I think this has made some people feel that they are entitled to the details of everybody else’s life as well. It just doesn’t seem normal or healthy for people to want to share everything. I am glad that somebody still appreciates the value of having some privacy.

    1. Ivy,

      I think imagination is underrated, so, in the spirit of encouraging the increased usage of ALL our imaginations, I propose we all stop sharing so damn much.

      I’ll start…ha!

  10. Welcome to the “I leave my phone turned off” club, though I usually have it in my shirt pocket in case of emergencies (at nearly 30 years older than you, I think about things like that more often).

    My contribution to protecting my privacy, such as it is, is to not be on Facebook, My Space, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, or anything else like that. Call me anti-social, but I’m sufficiently exposed on forums that I post on regularly and that’s social enough for me.

    1. Mike,

      I now avoid most all social media, too. It’s best for everyone, as I don’t suffer rudeness well.

  11. Selfies are annoying. Keep doing exactly what you enjoy doing and be yourself. That’s what your readers/viewers like. We like YOU :) I enjoy your videos because well…you’re amazing at what you do, you give great tips and advice and you always have a mischievous smile on your face.

    Thank you for not changing Ms. Kane.

  12. Ms. Kane,

    Thanks for sharing whatever parts of your life you choose. I’m glad I met you – even more glad than for the spanking with which you gifted me. Had you stayed in LA, it would have been a pleasure and honor just to talk.

    You give so much, and have more than a right to expect to be the only decision-maker on what you tell us.

    Respectfully submitted,

    Ethan the incorrigible

  13. ” I am not surgically attached to my smart phone. I actually have to look for the damn thing half the time when I want to use it, and even when I find it, have to turn it ON before use.”

    Love it! I carry mine in my waist pack and most of the time it is OFF! Someone recently changed a bunch of things on it and touted it was a lot easier to navigate now. Says who?!

    I do like to take pics with it, such as the road cuts that have interesting volcanic ash deposits in them. Or other things of nature.

    We have become a society of pictures on Instagram and Facebook, and we don’t even know who lives next door. I know sometimes we probably don’t want to know who lives next door, but I think you know what I am talking about.

    We all have a right to privacy. We all need privacy. The individual who wants to see more of you forgets that celebs often run from the camera bugs because they want some privacy.

    1. Bobbie Jo,

      I think it’s common for us to forget that other people have the same feelings, lives, and issues as us – and nobody should *want* to air their dirty laundries. oxxo

  14. In all honesty, I am pretty good with you not sharing every thing. That’s not your job. It none of my business. Do I think we would like each other if we met? Sure, I would like to think so. But in the meantime you and I are not friends. Not even really aquintances. I think you are pretty darn cool. But what I like about you or what I know about you is what you choose to share, you are a public figure, but that does not entitle me to all access. The relationship is a…I hate to say it….it is…It’s not meant to sound as cold as it is…but it is a business relationship. I happen to enjoy the product and the brand. It speaks to me. That being said my 40 bucks does not entitle me access to your personal life. Nor should it.

    When we deal with something so intimate such as spanking especially when the style of spanking mirrors our own desires, fantasies or even realities people assume there is an intimacy that really just does not exist. This is no different than rock stars or other famous people when the brand and the person are so directly connected. That is the difference between fantasy and reality I guess.

    Post what you want. Post when you want. Fuck what everyone else says. What is that expression? Opinions are like assholes, everyone is one.

    Sorry in advance for the ipad typing.

  16. I just thought of a great idea! Let’s do a jigsaw puzzle. Pleeeeeeaeeeeeeeeease………… Pretty, pretty pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease?

    Bratty Kay

    1. I have some! I’ll get them out and let you choose – kitties or puppies. oxxo

    2. How about kitties. They remind me of the Dear Kitten clips you introduced to us.

      Love Love!

  17. Dear Ms. Dana Kane,
    True, there are those who tweet, and blog, and pretend to offer 24/7 access into their lives, but we all know that’s a bit of the hoax.
    10 minutes of “real” is worth a heck of a lot more than 24/7 of hokum. And you offer us a whole lot more than that!
    And then there’s this (which annoys Audrey): You’re the disciplinarian. If people want 24/7 access, they should keep a dern naughty list, and send you a copy if and only if they intend to be disciplined by you. (That’s 24/7 access, too, it’s just the proper person’s rear being put under the microscope).
    Lastly and on a similar note, you film real spankin’s! You give your fans access to that. And THAT is plenty to think about 24/7! :-)
    Best to you and yours,
    Stefan

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