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Positively Punished – My time with The VBB

 Readers,
This will be the final installment of The Very Bad Boy’s Journal. His ability to express the feelings that lead up to our meeting, along with the very real feelings that he has expressed since, have impressed me beyond my expectations. I am confident that The VBB will mend his ways.   
(Enjoy a few screen grabs from the video that we made for his HoH’s private viewing. My deepest gratitude to them both for allowing me to share their experience with others.)    

– Dana

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Good Evening Dana

Thank you so much; thank you seems too simplistic of a way to express my deeply held gratitude. Nevertheless, thank you for the time and care you took in preparing for our session; it was clear you understood exactly what we were looking for and what it was that I really needed.  It is one thing to fulfill a role-playing fantasy but it is another to be able to successfully fulfill a request like ours. While the punishment aspect of our session was significant, it was the time you took to listen to my story that was truly cleansing. 
Thank you for being nonjudgmental and treating me with respect, I appreciated your ability to empathize with me without giving me a “Pass” for my behavior and for having the right balance of compassion and sternness. You made it very clear my past behavior was unacceptable and my punishment would be severe without making me feel totally worthless.  While I was prepared for a session centered on scolding me for my bad behavior I was completely caught by surprised when you chose to take a positive reinforcement approach. It would have been much easier for me to repeat after each stroke that I was a bad person or my behavior was awful than to repeat “I am a trustworthy person” and “I am a good Husband”. 

I cannot express how much I did not want to repeat those words after each stroke, if there was anytime I wanted to bolt out of the room it was at that point. It was very difficult for me to say those words and even more difficult to look at myself while saying them. I can honestly tell you those phrases are burned into my subconscious and will forever be in the forefront of my mind every time I am tempted to repeat my past behaviors.  I earnestly listened to what you said, I took it to heart and I am committed to not repeating my past actions. 

I was worried my high pain tolerance would prevent me from achieving the physical aspect of what I wanted to accomplish. By the time we were finished at the spanking bench and you told me you were going to finish with 100 swats I was honestly disappointed.  However, when you asked me if I wanted the swats to be light, medium or hard and I answered hard, I was completely unprepared for how “hard” hard was going to be. What followed was in fact the transforming and cleansing experience I was earnestly seeking.  
I never had anyone paddle me as hard as you did.  When we finished I knew we had achieved what I so desperately wanted and I had finally paid my dues, I had achieved the cleansing I sought.  
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4 Replies to “Positively Punished – My time with The VBB”

  1. > When we finished I knew we had achieved
    > what I so desperately wanted and I had
    > finally paid my dues, I had achieved
    > the cleansing I sought.

    Congratulations!

    Such a cleansing, cathartic experience is the goal.

    I have yet to come that far …

  2. Dear Dana,
    Thank you so much for taking such good care of my vbb. He is much more relaxed and happy, I have also seen an improvement in his attitude. Of course he can’t go too long without getting his bum spanked, but that is ok. At least now I know who I can call to help when my arm gets too tired. I have enjoyed poking his bum anytime he gets out of line as he still has parts that are sore. I will be sad to see all the bruises go away.
    The wife.

  3. Wow, I’m impressed that you attempted to make this a POSITIVE experience for the husband by insisting that he “build himself up” by using the powerful words of “I am a good husband,” etc.

    You are the BEST!!!

    Bob.

  4. I don’t want to be a nuisance, Dana, but I just want to reinforce what I said earlier. You are an excellent disciplinarian, not just because you obviously physically connect with people, but because you know how and are willing to connect with people on a mental and emotional level as well. Again this was a POSITIVE experience for that erring hubby; he’s not likely to make the same mistakes twice because on so many levels you TOUCHED him and left him feeling much better about himself. That’s what true discipline is ALL about! You are to be STRONGLY commended!! You LOVE people and it shows!!!

    I liked you before, but now I HIGHLY respect you and hold you in HIGH esteem!!!

    I thank you for what you do for others!!!

    Bob

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