Conversations with Spankos : Ideally…

 

Fellow spankos,

I regularly ask my new playmates, especially those who’ve not experienced much (or any) spanking play before, “What’s been swirling around in your mind? What do you think about when you think about your ‘ideal’ spanking?”

This is a great question for all of us, I think. What, if given the choice to have it happen ANY way you want, would be your ideal spanking scenario? Doesn’t matter whether you’re a top, a bottom, or a switch, or whether the spanking that you consider the best would be given or taken, either. We all have a main fantasy I think – the one that plays most often in our heads – and I’m interested in yours.

Tell me about your ‘ideal’ spanking in the comments area, so that others can join in the Conversation.

 

–  Dana

28 Replies to “Conversations with Spankos : Ideally…”

  1. Strict teacher who takes control and I don’t a option but to take the punshiment she wears glasses a tight dress with a big belt white shirt with tie that’s what’s plays in my mind.dana I love the way u spank talk when your spanking someday my dream is to go over your knee

    1. Thank you for commenting clawson, and for sharing your ideal spanking scenario. I think your domestic/teacher fantasy will be echoed by others…let’s see what they have to say..

  2. Commenters,

    If you don’t see your comment here, it’s likely because you were doing SO well – right up until the very end, when you said something tacky and unrelated to spanking. Please try again, only this time put on your Manners first.

    Thanks,
    Dana

  3. My dream spanking would be in the following scenario:
    I am preparing to give a young lady a full-body massage (Nothing sexual, just a straight but uninhibited Massage) – Then a slightly older, athletic looking lady bursts into the room, FURIOUS with the girl I was about to massage” She turns out to be a jealous lesbian Lover – and she intends to leather the very hide off my girl, for allowing me to get so personal!
    Being the gentleman I am, I complain, and the athletic one says that if I feel so strongly about it, then I can take the flogging, IF I am willing! I will not be bound, and if I give in at ANY point, the other girl will still get her beating!
    I, of course agree, and strip off! The beating starts! It is NOT just playing, she is STRONG! and she is DETERMINED to MAKE me give in! – But I am JUST as determined NOT to do so!
    After a very long and agonizing time, SHE gives in, and the girls bottom is saved!
    All is forgiven, the older girl respects my Chivalry, and we all hug, and go our ways (But with a suggestion that one day, I MAY be allowed to give the Massage) – Chaperoned of course, by the older girl – but that is still for another day, while I depart, to nurse my agonized bottom!

    1. Jack,

      I love that your fantasy ends with everyone happy – just the way every story should. Thanks!

  4. I actually have 2 one is the teacher fantasy With a scolding then a caning. the other one is a captured spy and the disciplinarian is seeking intel Then being strapped down to a piece of furniture and and being made to talk.. Military hat, tight shirt, tight skirt, and heels.

    Just because It gives a chance for me to be a smarty pants

    1. Robin,

      Both sound equally fantasy-worthy, but it seems to me that scenario number two is right up your…ahem, alley…so to speak. oxxo

  5. I’m a big fan of scenes where I bottom as a Student/Teacher, Boss/Employee, Sister/Sister.
    I like some sort of major comeuppance when my smart mouth earns me a very smarting ass. There must be a lot of humorous banter between me and my tops for me to truly appreciate the scene. Scoldings are awesome and fun to experience-even though it WILL be a verbal losing battle for my top…because I’m ALWAYS right no matter what I do or say!

    One thing I believe to be a 100% mythological experience is the threat that a spanking will make one “unable to sit for a week”!
    LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    1. Alexis,

      You play the bratty student part SO well – I’m sure that you have ‘no experience’ in that department. Ha~

      We’ll have to test that ‘myth’ out on you one day. Sounds like my kinda challenge.

      ox

  6. There are two perfect spanking senerios that I have.

    The first one is the Wonderful Wife is waiting for me at the front door with a wooden paddle. When I walk through the door she stops me and makes me drop my pants. She then starts paddling me and after a minute or so she makes me go to the bedroom while she is still paddling me as we walk. When I open the bedroom door she has her spanking implaments on the bed and she proceeds to give me a long hard spanking ( with no canes of course).

    The second one is my favorate and maybe one day will actually take place. After a spanking session with Ms. Kane, the WW coordinates with Ms. Kane for a morning after spanking. Either Ms. Kane shows up the next the morning to give me another spanking on my already sore bottom; or the WW takes me over to Dana’s house for a morning after spanking. Of course I’m not awear that either Dana is coming over or that the WW is taking me over to see her again. The perfect senerio would not include any canes or Delrin impliments.

    1. VBB,

      Both your scenarios seem very doable (and probably well-earned, too). Maybe next time we get together you’ll get your wish…

      oxo

  7. One near ideal scenario for me would be to kick off the New Year (along with some jammie bottoms) draped over the lovely lap of a foxy (vixeny, if you will) spanker …harkening say from the South,,,maybe the Texass/ Louisiana area and that with a long dose from her punishing palm and wooden and leather “hiney helpers” at the end my end would be glowing as brightly as Rudolph’s red nose! THAT is my Christmas wish!!…Santa are you listening?

    1. I dunno, Phil. Seems like an awfully tall order to me. I cannot imagine when or where you’ll manage to fulfill this particular fantasy, but it’s not too late to get off the Naughty list.~

    2. *sighing sadly* …As usual you re wise beyond your years, Ms Dana….and good “help” is so hard to get, especially the special kind that I seem to require….however
      I do still believe in Santa and I just have the feeling he will come thru for this naughty boy…I CAN promise you this though…you WILL be the first to know if my New Years day fanny fantasy becomes a reality…;)

  8. I really, really like OTK hand spankings….but my ideal spanking scenario would be a mock judicial corporal punishment, delivered in restraints/over a spanking bench, with no warm-up and without a safe word or the ability to stop the punishment until it was carried out in full.

    It’s obviously not something I’d want to do all the time, as I love more playful sessions too — and I would need to have an experienced disciplinarian whom I trusted completely since by design I would have almost no control over the punishment I received — but I’d really, really like to experience that sort of intense session at least once, even if I subsequently never wanted to do it again.

    More details: ideally a “punishment” for something I did in real life, recently or long ago, with the sentence imposed and delivered solely at the discretion of my disciplinarian after some interrogation concerning my misconduct. Using a strap, cane or paddle, or any other implement, but ideally just one, with a predetermined and announced number of strokes, all to be delivered in a very deliberate, slow but consistent pace perhaps one stroke every 5, or 10, seconds – whatever pace is determined, it wouldn’t vary throughout the punishment regardless of my reactions so that there would be a grim, inevitable, unyielding nature to the spanking — that’s the mindset I’d really like to explore – the sort of resignation and realization that I’m truly not in control anymore, and that this is something I’m going to receive even though I clearly don’t want it and am in distress, but this is something I deserve (or arranged) and now it’s exactly what I’m going to receive.

    Getting to that mental place is something I’ve always wanted to experience – I think it actually would be really cathartic for me, as strange as that may sound for a scenario that intense.

    1. Arrogant Brat, I don’t think it sounds strange at all, nor likely do most other readers. While most wouldn’t be able to actually handle this type scene, I’m confident that you, my dear, could.

      oxxo

    2. My favorite scenario is a bit the same, but it takes place in a reform school. The rest is the same. In my imagination it is full force and very painfull from the beginning, but I know from real spankings that I don’t like so much pain. So the pain has to feel like full force after a very long warm up.

    3. Sanne,
      Yours is a common case of fantasy outweighing reality – we THINK we want that hard, serious corporal…until someone pulls out a spencer paddle.~

  9. I’m a bottom. I play with tops of both genders, but my ideal spanking would be with a female Top. It could be a role play scenario or it could be for no reason at all. What it would have to be is hard. My top would place me in vulnerable positions of her choosing. She would use her hand and/or implement(s) she chooses, though I would request leather implements, which may cut, and canes, especially thick canes, which bruise. I would not need to be restrained. I would hold still. She would hit me everywhere on my bottom and thighs, with some attention to my back thrown in for good measure. I would cry. Afterwards, my top would render first aid. I would be bruised, and there would be some areas of broken skin. It would hurt to sit down, lie on my back, or turn over in bed. The next day, sitting would bring tears to my eyes, but it would also make me smile. And the day after that, and the day after that . . . .

    1. Cautious,

      You’re ringin’ my bell here, sugar. If you could see me right now, you’d see me waving my hand in the air – pick me, pick me! Ha~

      I’m sure we’ll get around to this – sooner than later, hopefully.

      oxxo

  10. I like age play where I am totally dominated by a female disciplinarian administering a no no nonsense over the knee paddling. My fantasy prefers that she be wearing nylon stockings and a short tight skirt. She can either be my teacher or principal paddling me for bullying on the playground and numerous minor discipline problems, a neighbor who caught me stealing her lingerie off of her clothesline who lets me choose between a paddling or her calling my parents, or my girlfriends mother who plans on paddling her daughter for some rule that we broke together and I agree that I too should be paddled.

    These situations all include the idea that I am totally submissive to the will of my disciplinarian and I will receive a no nonsense spanking. James

    1. James,

      I love the ‘caught in the act’ ageplay scenarios too. The element of maternal care in these scenes isn’t lost on any of us.

    2. Dear Dana, As a submissive I find it interesting that I dictate the scenario and some bottoms have a safe word. That is why I want my disciplinarian in charge of the actual spanking. James

    3. James,
      Many of us enjoy spanking simply for the sake of spanking, but I believe that just as many more require the power exchange dynamic. Giving over control of the situation is a necessary part of the process for lots of folks, so you’re not alone in that respect.

  11. For me it is simple, maybe too simple. The thought in my head when I think of receiving a spanking, is simply to hear from the woman that she cares enough to spank me. That I actually matter to her..

  12. Here’s one that’s been swirling around in my head that I think would be a great scenario for a POV video.

    I get home from doing yet another hour of detention and the first thing I encounter is Mommy, livid because the teacher has called her when I was walking home and begged her to sign a permission slip allowing me to be spanked at school. This puzzles Mommy because she remembers signing exactly such a permission slip and sending it with me to be dropped off at the office on the first day of classes. So she did a quick inspection of my bedroom and was stunned to find the crumpled permission slip stuffed under my mattress. No WONDER I’ve been getting so many days of detention and never coming home with a sore bottom.

    Mommy is furious that I not only didn’t deliver the slip but tried to hide it, so she is going to walk me to class tomorrow and drop a brand new one off at the office. Then, she’s going to accompany to my classroom so that she can watch the teacher take me over her knee and deliver her first Mommy-approved spanking to me in front of the entire class. She had a long talk with the teacher about it on the phone while I was walking home and the teacher is looking forward to finally be able to properly discipline me herself.

    But first, it’s Mommy’s turn. She is going to bare my bottom and take me over her knee right now and wallop me with a hairbrush for what I did . Then, I’m going to sit my glowing keester at the kitchen table and write the teacher a letter apologizing her what I did and asking her to spank me. I’ll be reading the letter to the entire class tomorrow morning before the teacher takes me over her knee…won’t the girls in class enjoy THAT? It will make me think twice before I try to hide another note that Mommy sends to school.

    After I write the letter, Mommy reviews it and then gives me another spanking before putting me to bed so I’ll be rested for my big day at school tomorrow.

    Such fun!!!!

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