Conversations with Spankos : Ideally…

  Fellow spankos, I regularly ask my new playmates, especially those who’ve not experienced much (or any) spanking play before, “What’s been swirling around in your mind? What do you think about when you think about your ‘ideal’ spanking?” This is a great question for all of us, I think. What, if given the choice […]

Conversations with Spankos : Public Spanking?

  Readers,   I know, from talks with many of my playmates, that public spankings play a large role in our spanko fantasies. For myself, having had the opportunity to dole out a few semi-public spankings (thanks to Angel, the VBB and his WW, and My Bottom’s Bottom), there is certainly an element of naughtiness, […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter 21 ‘Hide and Seek’

Readers, One of the conversations which I have with many of my spanko friends and playmates seems an inevitable one : When did we ‘find’ spanking? Not when did we discover our interest/fascination/obsession, but when did we find the larger spanko community?  For many, their Hide and Seek brought them, in the early days, to NuWest, Lupus, […]

Conversations with Spankos (Ch.18) : Getting Your Groove On?

Readers, For your spanking-enthusiast-related activities, do you enjoy a little slap and tickle…or just the slap? I know that circumstances surrounding spanking play can vary drastically from experience to experience, and that our playmates are not necessarily our bedmates – but what do we really prefer? For me, spanking is not an outright sexually-motivated activity. […]

Conversations with Spankos: Ch. 15 : What do YOU want to talk about?

Readers,After more than a dozen posts under the umbrella of ‘Conversations with Spankos’, I’m interested to see what you’re interested in this year. What haven’t we covered thus far that’s of interest to your spanko mind?In the past couple years, we’ve discussed things like safe words, gender preferences, boundaries, and bratting. We’ve touched on the […]

Conversations with Spankos (Ch.12): Bratting

Since bratting has been somewhat of a theme in my personal life of late, I thought that it would make an excellent topic of conversation today. If you’ve seen the recently posted Angel’s Delrin Punishment video (and others), you are well aware of my personal opinions on things like bratting, ‘topping from the bottom’, and […]

Conversations with Spankos (Ch.10) : Does Size Matter?

Readers, Get your minds out of the gutter – this is about spanking. Over the last couple years that I’ve been playing professionally there have been numerous times that new playmates have commented, “Wow, you’re bigger than I expected!” upon meeting me. Most recently, a poor boy with his legs pinned under me as I […]

Conversations with Spankos (Ch.9): Who Knows?

Readers, After having read her post describing Alex Reynold’s recent accidental familial outing, I am curious about the ‘out’ status of other spankos.  My (admittedly, few) family know about my lifestyle and profession – my somewhat infamous auntie is tickled by the whole idea and asks pointed and sometimes slightly uncomfortable questions. In truth, nobody […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Eight

Readers, I have received a number of age-play requests and comments of late, which is likely directly related to my posting blogs and videos (both in my studio and with Dreams of Spanking). While these conversations concern everything from role-play scenarios to childhood memories to issues of accountability, the similarity which I notice among most […]

Conversations with Spankos: Brutality

Readers, What constitutes brutality, within the confines of spanking and/or corporal punishment? Is it subjective? Conversations with Spankos: Chapter 7 I’ve seen many photos, videos, and written accounts of what could be called ‘Corporal Brutality’…extreme paddling, caning, or whipping scenes where the bottom’s bottom is reduced to smithereens. Usually, these are things which I would consider […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Six

Readers, For the last few months, I have been corresponding with a delightful lady who’s exploring her spanking interest after many years of being in the closet, so to speak. Recently she asked my opinion on: Topping from the Bottom.   Naturally, I have one.. I told my new friend that (at least in the […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Five

Readers, A fun subject which I have the great good fortune to discuss fairly regularly of late is the ‘Second-Day Spanking’. Many of the female tops with whom I communicate (the WW comes to mind, naturally) enjoy the great power (and slight sadism) involved in spanking an already sore bottom. We know that even that […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Four

Chapter Four:  Couples Therapy I receive a fair amount of communication from couples. Usually, they are already engaged in some sort of spanking play, and some are living DD or FLDD relationships. A few are interested in learning about spanking from a ‘newbie’ standpoint, and have little to no prior spanking experience but lots of […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Three

I love the conversations that I have with other spankos, and the words that we use to express ourselves are so very important. This is just as true for spanking play as it is in every other aspect of life, and we set the tone and temperature of our interactions with the words that we […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter Two

Readers, While we will eventually cover all sorts of fun and light-hearted spanko themes, I would like to follow ‘Chapter One: Isolation’ with another somewhat serious subject that’s come up time and again. Just today, I heard yet another story about an unfortunately common theme… Chapter Two:  The Bad Scene What interests me is not […]

Conversations with Spankos: Chapter One

I have such great conversations with my fellow spankos and playmates; sometimes we are discussing our differences, but most often it is our commonalities which receive the most attention. It seems as though certain themes (the ‘spanko commons’, I guess you could call them) come up time and time again.. I’d like to take the […]